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Not when your mom deserves it.
And don't tell me that just by the virtues of being a mom she's somehow infallible.
She literally didn't even give birth to me, technically.
I'm with you on not excusing a person just because they're your family.
I just want to know, "technically?"
Well I never travel through her birthing canal.
Caesarean, like with all my (3) siblings.
So she bore me, but didn't technically birth me. But thats semantics and I don't want to offend women who've had a caesarean as if there was somehow a meaningful difference.
I'm saying there's a symbolic one, in this context.
My mom would always rag on my sister because she was born vaginally, but had to give birth to her own child by c-section due to breach position. I understand first-hand that mothers are not intrinsically good for their children, but the circumstances of the birth process that are out of their hands isn't really one of the things to judge them on.
Well you'll be happy to know that isn't one the things I judge her for.
I've no need to.
As I said, it's just symbolic of how disconnected she is in my life anyway. I understand there is no meaningful difference and would disencourage anyone from attributing any to it.
I haven't lived with her since I was 15.