Unfortunately if you're high-masking they usually disagree with you and say you can't possibly be autistic.
this post was submitted on 22 May 2025
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I'm still traumatised by getting that reaction from my friends the first time I told them about my diagnosis. A decade and a half later and I still have imposter syndrome about my own diagnosis.
Maybe the doctors were wrong and my friends were right all along? Maybe I'm actually just a worthless, lazy piece of shit?
The way you should think about it is that you were masking really well, which is hard!
That is actually a good perspective. Thank you.
If it helps, like often attracts like. My diagnosis was delayed because my wife insisted I was normal. It turns out we both have ADHD and autism. 🤷♂️ Also, an impressive number of our friend have now been diagnosed as various neurodiversities. It set off a bit of a chain reaction.
I've only recently got diagnosed and I've been very selective on who I tell it. So far, only my dad and current gf know. The real irony is that my ex, a psychologist, never raised a suspicion, not even as a joke, that I might be one.
And then proceed to use two data points to extrapolate your entire history in their heads, and conclude that the issue is really [something irrelevant].
I wish someone would say that to me
Although I don't go around sharing that I'm Autistic. That seems like over sharing to me
Them: “Hey you seem a little unfocused today is something wrong?”
Me using 90% of my focus to not say random thoughts out loud or pace or make weird faces because everyone will think I’m insane: “yeah I’m fine, just a little tired is all”
That image on the bottom goes hard
Poster: I support autists!
Poster: I hate reply guys! What the fuck is wrong with those morons.
Or another one:
"I get that sometimes Autistic people unintentionally come off as rude or mean"
"I hate people who are blunt and dry because they are jerks"
what's a reply guy?
Reply guy is an internet slang term for someone who excessively responds to social media posts, often in an annoying, condescending, or overly familiar or flirtatious manner.
Says Wikipedia.
so like creeps on Instagram model pages? or people that argue politics in comments? both?
Those people are awful and not who I meant. I'm talking about reply guys who point out that your joke doesn't work because it is factually incorrect. They (reply guy can be any gender) can see how it would be funny if it were that way but alas it is not.
hmm, I'm autistic and i learned that you don't have to bring it up when a joke doesn't make logical sense pretty young. as an autist, i find that shit annoying. especially when it's dudebros pointing out "that's not how guns work" in every movie ever.
NTs don’t know what autism is because every time it’s talked about someone always has to pipe in “thats not autism” because it’s not their personal experience or don’t realize it is in fact how they behave from the outside it looks different than how they think it looks