jeanmarielepain

joined 2 days ago
[–] jeanmarielepain@lemmy.world 1 points 5 hours ago (1 children)

Je suis nouvelle et j'ai pas forcément eu besoin de changer la langue car je comprends l'anglais mais je pense que ça dépend déjà de quelle application tu utilises pour utiliser Lemmy? J'en sais pas plus désolée je suis encore un peu perdue moi-même sur Lemmy

[–] jeanmarielepain@lemmy.world 3 points 21 hours ago

She just blocked me when I said it would be better for the both of us to try not to date lmao

[–] jeanmarielepain@lemmy.world 9 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (3 children)

She mentions in her bio she's got several mental illnesses so I thought it was okay to be like "hey I struggle with bipolar too". She then said she wasn't willing to share her mental illnesses... Why put it up in her bio then? My bio doesn't mention my mental illnesses. But I am still upfront about it to people I start to feel a connection with.

Faudrait que je tente ça un jour ! Quand j'étais à Marseille je traînais dans les salles qui jouaient principalement du métal mais avec des petits groupes pas très connus. L'ambiance était une tuerie !

Yes it's for the best thank you

Thank you makes me feel like I am not crazy

[–] jeanmarielepain@lemmy.world 8 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

Thank you. I'm having nice conversations with a cute girl and when I displayed my bipolar disorder she said it was okay and she had anxiety, social anxiety and depression which felt nice not to be judged. She also told me she's got another chronic illness she's not ready to talk about for now, which I am totally okay with.

Right maybe we're just not right for each other

 

She told me I trauma dumped on her and I was looking to trauma bond. Which I think isn't true since I disclosed to other dates from the get-go I was bipolar because I am one of those who think it's better to tell someone right away then later when they get attached. Some people are just not okay dating with mental illnesses and that's okay. So I prefer to say it in advance.

She said she is disabled too and won't be capable of taking care of me all the time, I have taken it badly because as I said to her I am not looking for a mother. She told she's got "nurse syndrom" which is basically in the context of romantic relationships, is a psychological phenomenon where an individual, often a woman, feels a compulsive need to "save" or "fix" their partner. I told her I find that infantilizing I do not want a mother or someone trying to save me, yes I am disabled but yes I can also take care of myself like a grown-up, I am not 6 years old looking for guidance. I said to her I do not feel comfortable pursuing the relationship. AITA for thinking she's the one showing red flags?

 

Jai été shadowbanned de Reddit pour avoir demandé sur le sub de Korn si ma mauvaise expérience de concert avec eux était juste une soirée de fatigue où s'ils faisaient tous leurs concerts comme ça désormais. Je suis donc nouvelle sur Lemmy. De l'aide en français je vous en supplie?

 
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