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The original was posted on /r/AskMen by /u/Kayoo38 on 2023-10-05 13:59:51.

Like when there is zero recognition of the fact that you are the only breadwinner. Instead, hearing that you shouldn't complain because you've got all the privilege. What do you do when the worry becomes a lot? Do you have friends to share it with? Or other ways?

Edit: I'm a woman. I'm asking men because our dynamics are usually more typical the other way around. I don't mean to bash him or anyone either. Getting a divorce won't change my situation. The kids stay with me and he'll never pay a dime. Just hoping to get some advice on how to deal with the financial worry. It'll always be on me.

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The original was posted on /r/AskMen by /u/geralt_of_rivia1111 on 2023-10-05 09:00:57.

I know there will be some of you that don't ever want to get married ....my questions is what are your reasons and what plans do you have when you get old and all weak cuz everyone has to get old someday (most likely if you survive that long) . Would love to know your thoughts .

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The original was posted on /r/AskMen by /u/Independent_Jelly91 on 2023-10-05 12:34:15.

At a gym I go to there is a cute receptionist. He sees me in my gym clothes (not the most flattering), dreanched in sweat, red face, no makeup etc. My non-attractive look. Otgerwise I dress nice and use a little bit of makeup, hair nicley done.

Did it ever happen that you only knew person from one envoirment and then were suprised when you met them elsewhere and they looked more attractive or just different?

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The original was posted on /r/AskMen by /u/Efficient_Constant13 on 2023-10-05 08:32:37.

I have been called “sweet” and “bubbly” by people around me, in different countries and cities, even at different workplaces.

I don’t swear, not in every day life, not at my partner. I don’t scream either or have big outbursts of crying when I am upset during an argument. I am short, have a round soft face and deep dimples as well so slight movements make me look smiley/friendly. I don’t like ultimatums or the silent treatment. And I forgive my partner easily. I am also quite derpy, I like silly jokes and get excited and happy at the smallest things (saw a wild ferret in Berlin once when walking with my boyfriend, I squealed and did a tippy tap due to excitement).

Because of all that and how I am as a person, people don’t take me seriously when I am truly angry. It rarely happens, think twice a year at most. When it happens, people take it lightly until I reach a point where I cut them out. My current boyfriend and my two exes don’t take me seriously until I break up and they feel blindsided.

I communicate, clearly and simply. How I feel, why I feel that way, how I perceive what happened and how I would like us as a couple to find a solution. I don’t say “you this, you that, you blah blah”. And I also want to hear their side and I don’t mind sincerely apologising when I am wrong. Yet, nothing ever happens and I build resentment.

I don’t want to have to scream/threaten/give ultimatums, I truly don’t like that. What can I do? My current boyfriend (33M) doesn’t get that I (31F) am reaching a point where if I keep building resentment, this relationship will end.

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The original was posted on /r/AskMen by /u/dardarbinks610 on 2023-10-05 08:34:54.

I’m in a recent relationship with a man (45m) who has really only ever seen me (34f) in baggy work/ construction type clothes and no makeup since we met last year. Long story short, he asked me out on a date recently and and picked me up. As soon as he saw me, he said “wow what’s that all for?!” (Referring to my sundress and light makeup application). I felt embarrassed and taken aback,, I just wanted to show him the ladylike side of me since he was kind enough to take me out for a night on the town at a upscale establishment. I pressed back and he explained that he is “just not used to seeing me like that” and shrugged. he seemed nervous through the date. I asked him about it the next day and he brushed it off, adamant that he “just isn’t used to seeing me like that and being around women with nice makeup and dresses. (He backtracks and insists I look beautiful either way). I felt self conscious throughout the night, even though I knew I looked casual with light makeup. What does that really mean? I really like him, but not sure why he didn’t react positively. What’s your opinions?

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The original was posted on /r/AskMen by /u/Rendislube on 2023-10-04 22:54:19.

Did you get to live a socially active life or was it rather insulated? Do you live how you want and if not, how would you, very honestly, like to live? Do you think it's achievable?

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The original was posted on /r/AskMen by /u/justadude6711 on 2023-10-05 03:14:05.

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The original was posted on /r/AskMen by /u/WorldlyAd6642 on 2023-10-04 19:47:14.

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The original was posted on /r/AskMen by /u/LowAnybody8295 on 2023-10-05 01:04:50.

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The original was posted on /r/AskMen by /u/Consistent_Builder66 on 2023-10-04 23:45:11.

I’m sure there is plenty who are in denial, however simultaneously I’m sure there’s many who now realize the damage they did.

How did you (if you did) forgive yourself and move forward.

I am carrying a heavy heart from my past actions. I was always loyal, trustworthy, and a great provider but I dealt with a lot in the first few months of the relationship and at that time, was cold and somewhat distant.

Then I was not mentally available for majority of the other 3 years (blinded by work stress and finances). I feel like she was patiently hoping things would change and it never did.

Now I feel that I potentially ruined something so pure from her due to ignorance on my end.

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The original was posted on /r/AskMen by /u/PapiSurane on 2023-10-04 21:14:17.

I can run the microwave and toaster at the same time without blowing the circuit in my kitchen.

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The original was posted on /r/AskMen by /u/nogod9643 on 2023-10-04 22:07:35.

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The original was posted on /r/AskMen by /u/Intelligent-Extent82 on 2023-10-04 17:03:39.

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The original was posted on /r/AskMen by /u/Consistent_Builder66 on 2023-10-04 16:59:38.

What did you do to overcome it?

Early 30's and the main components of my life (with the exception of my health) are falling around me. I suddenly feel like I have no sense of direction.

My business is on life support, my relationship ended... All things that I have poured years into and envisioned growing in my future. Now I'm sitting here wondering wtf happened.

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The original was posted on /r/AskMen by /u/elitejackal on 2023-10-04 16:08:23.

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The original was posted on /r/AskMen by /u/SuccessPrestigious74 on 2023-10-04 13:58:46.

I was talking to my girlfriend about how I find it comfy nap on the couch, she saids she hates it (even though she fits the couch better than me)but, it got me thinking that most guys can really sleep anywhere.

So, where have you taken your best nap?

Me? I was playing with my rabbit one day and setting up a bed for him. I ended up falling asleep on the carpet in his play area and using his bed as my pillow. That was an amazing nap lol.

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The original was posted on /r/AskMen by /u/Glittering_Sport5959 on 2023-10-04 13:35:48.

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The original was posted on /r/AskMen by /u/Cheyzi on 2023-10-04 03:28:28.

I always hear of a lot of people buying new clothes and was wondering if people actually buy new clothes every month.

I myself maybe buy 1-2 shirts per year. I don’t have so much money so spending it on clothes is not a good decision for me. The shoes I wear are ~ 7 years old, most of my clothes are around 5-8 years old

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The original was posted on /r/AskMen by /u/blushbell on 2023-10-04 13:21:14.

I just had a lovely interaction with a man, we noticed each other from a distance and then leaving I smiled at him and waved. He spoke up and said sorry, if you thought I was creepy for looking, I’m just waiting on a friend. I said not at all, in fact I thought he was security as he was in uniform.

We talked a bit more and then said goodbyes. It got me thinking, how often do men worry they come across as creepy? It hadn’t crossed my mind at all. Afterwards I also thought he could have thought the same of me as we were both looking at each other.

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The original was posted on /r/AskMen by /u/Kayoo38 on 2023-10-04 11:39:12.

I've heard women say that to men (and men telling me they were told that) and always wondered how this lands on you.

Edit: does that happen to you at all or is this urban legend?

Second edit for clarification: I ask because I've heard this myself quite a bit (I seem to show quite masculine behavior whatever that means) and I always find it invasive and not at all inviting to share anything about me.

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The original was posted on /r/AskMen by /u/AntRevolutionary2310 on 2023-10-04 10:50:54.

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The original was posted on /r/AskMen by /u/EyangNaga22 on 2023-10-04 07:17:02.

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The original was posted on /r/AskMen by /u/novembergreenblue on 2023-10-04 05:39:44.