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Holy shit Gaiman and Palmer should both be in prison.
Also can I kink shame for a minute? It's messed up to feel the need to "possess" or "own" someone else. If that's your kink, maybe you should work on that, and view ppl as autonomous and worthy of respect, not as objects that exist solely in relation to how much control you have over them.
I think it's more the tendency of abusers to find language and culture to hide in, from religion to (pseudo) science, liberal Feminism, therapy speak etc.
There's actually a dom gap because of the amount of effort that goes into being a good active partner in bdsm. It's like being a DM playing out a scenario or situation.
But I'm also happy if we shut down all cishet maledoms until we fix this patriarchy situation.
Absolutely right. It's one of the reasons I have to vet potential sub partners carefully. I'm very tired of doing all the planning work only to have someone flake at the last minute. I'm long done with casual hookups. Especially the "discreet" crowd.
Oh my god it totally is, I never thought about it that way.
Being into the appearance or roleplay of someone being owned by you is not the same as actually wanting the thing itself. Unfortunately I bet a lot of people with the latter pretends it's the former, mostly men
Speaking as an experienced dom, I fully agree. I never understood the 24/7 thing. I want my play partners to be FWBs with a heavy emphasis on the F part. Outside of sessions (with all the proper safe/sane/consensual aspects) I prefer to treat them as equals. Criteria #1 on my mental checklist of a potential partner is "Are they an independent adult who has experience being an independent adult?"
roles can be fun to try on, like costume parties they can let us express parts of ourselves or try being someone else in a safe and fun environment. I'd run screaming from someone who thought that play relationships should exist outside of that.