It took me ages to realise this. People with ADHD are always portrayed as lazy but they don’t struggle with hard work, they struggle with boring work. Before I knew I had ADHD I always found I was getting in trouble for not finishing boring work so I always used to prioritise tasks by how much fun they were and start with the most boring. I just ended up getting nothing done.

[–] PriorityMotif@lemmy.world 73 points 1 month ago (51 children)

Then they also get mad when you find an easier way to accomplish the same thing in a fraction of the time or even automating it.

[–] Flocklesscrow@lemm.ee 41 points 1 month ago (35 children)

"Why didn't you show your work, so I can see how you think?"

Because I did it in my head and got the right answer. This isn't about you.

[–] MonkeMischief 3 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago) (1 children)

Lol I hated this too, I really did. But like a lot of answers here, I can appreciate it somewhat now. Especially when trying to learn to code.

I think learning to break down problems might even be MORE valuable to people like us with ADHD, even if we hate it, because we tend to intuit our way through things by the seat of our pants.

Also sometimes I got really lucky and arrived at the correct answer in a bizarre and inconsistent way.

In the end, it's very valuable to be able to communicate your process to others. Even if it's irritating and awful to get through.

I also wonder if those like myself, who really REALLY hated math until my brain started to appreciate it in my adult years, just gnash our teeth at these memories because it made us feel stupid when we struggled to keep up with that slow, methodical raw-logic stuff...

EDIT: I can see you were the polar opposite of myself, ridiculously GOOD at math but found it a waste of time showing how you got there. That makes sense. I have zero idea what that's like lol.

[–] Flocklesscrow@lemm.ee 2 points 1 month ago

I wouldn't have minded it nearly as much, had they not accused me of cheating on the exam. That sticks in the craw.

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