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Lemmings, why did you decide to never confess to someone that you liked so much? (lemmy.world)

submitted 1 year ago by Asudox@lemmy.world to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

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[–] simon574@feddit.de 3 points 1 year ago (3 children)

What? I'm never sure about anything these days. I just feel "I've always wanted to try this restaurant, would you be interested" is better than "I have to confess something ... I'm totally attracted to you" That being said I'm in a committed relationship right now and it started with just spending time together naturally.

[–] cubedsteaks 1 points 1 year ago (2 children)

Because there are so many easier, safer, less awkward ways to check if someone likes me back or not

Oh you said this. So I thought maybe you just knew when someone liked you. Like a tell during a poker game.

I'm just in a situation where social norms where I live dictate that I shouldn't ask someone out so I was hoping for insight on how to tell if someone is actually interested or not. Without straight up asking.

[–] racketlauncher831@lemmy.ml 1 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I may not have a lot of experience but there are definitely signs for both sexes. Notice how your behaviours have changed toward someone after you were into them, then sex swap to think similarly. Generally the interested party wants more interaction with the counterparty but there must be more.

[–] cubedsteaks 1 points 1 year ago

Where I live, most people go by gender, not sex.

The person I'm into is very androgynous so there isn't like, a tell tale sign. I don't think they really do anything that's either male or female.