this post was submitted on 23 Apr 2025
718 points (97.7% liked)
Memes
9711 readers
817 users here now
Post memes here.
A meme is an idea, behavior, or style that spreads by means of imitation from person to person within a culture and often carries symbolic meaning representing a particular phenomenon or theme.
An Internet meme or meme, is a cultural item that is spread via the Internet, often through social media platforms. The name is by the concept of memes proposed by Richard Dawkins in 1972. Internet memes can take various forms, such as images, videos, GIFs, and various other viral sensations.
- Wait at least 2 months before reposting
- No explicitly political content (about political figures, political events, elections and so on), !politicalmemes@lemmy.ca can be better place for that
- Use NSFW marking accordingly
Laittakaa meemejä tänne.
- Odota ainakin 2 kuukautta ennen meemin postaamista uudelleen
- Ei selkeän poliittista sisältöä (poliitikoista, poliittisista tapahtumista, vaaleista jne) parempi paikka esim. !politicalmemes@lemmy.ca
- Merkitse K18-sisältö tarpeen mukaan
founded 2 years ago
MODERATORS
you are viewing a single comment's thread
view the rest of the comments
view the rest of the comments
Children get upset about all kinds of things, and it's important to help them understand and resolve their emotions, no matter how silly it is.
Eighty cows is a minor inconvenience at worst and like four stacks of steak at best.
So I feel like the confusion here isn't just coming from how to handle the griefer child or how to get the cows out of the house. I think it's more to do with the novelty of the situation.
Why is the child upset by this? Does he not like to kill cows in the game? Is there something preventing him from luring the cows out of the house? Was he just unpleasantly surprised by it and hadn't thought through whether or not it was a big deal? There's a lot of layers to this.
Or maybe this guy just never played Minecraft.
When I was a kid, I would always get in trouble for getting upset. No one ever wanted to know why I was upset. They just wanted me to shut the fuck up and I often had a hard time doing so. I really wish things would have been handled the way you describe. My siblings didn't have the same problems as me in this way so it has always made me feel alone in feeling what I feel. Now as an adult, I never know if what I'm feeling is real and valid... usually I think it isn't.
Anyway sorry that was only tangentially related.
I don't think it's tangentially related? You have effectively contrasted the Right Thing To Do comment with your experience of the Wrong Thing To Do as well as its terrible, lifelong impact.
I too had that flavor of (let's say unkind) upbringing and now I devote every waking moment to tearing that garbage out of me and installing something more like what u/moakley described
Thanks for helping to validate my comment haha. I do appreciate it.
Is there anything specific you've done and would recommend to help swing in the other direction like you've stated?
Was curious as to what you might have found helpful. I had tried the beginnings of CBT in the past, but it just makes me feel bad and frustrated. I have always been taught that my thoughts and feelings are wrong, and that's effectively the core of CBT. I don't like it because it just propagates how everything I think and feel is invalid. Yet it's the "trendy" thing to do nowadays so every therapist and their mother uses it as their modality.
Interestingly though I don't think that this issue necessarily stems from deliberately toxic parents. My mom did the best she could and is very loving and nurturing but I was just too much for her to know how to deal with in this way.
CBT is not supposed to teach that your thoughts or feelings are 'wrong' just that they can be harmful or unhelpful, and give you strategies to move past them when thats the case. Thats what emotional regulation is, and what ideal parents would teach chldren. Its perfectly valid to have a negative emotion, but not all responses to it are appropriate, and there's no point in getting stuck on a negative emotion jist because it's 'valid' especially if that can be harmful to yourself or others. Its fine to feel sad or angry, but its not healthy to want to stay that way. Youre suplosed to recognize why you're sad and angry, take steps to fix it if you can, and move past it.