Though I am sort of reluctant to try dating. In the past, I tried dating apps but they yielded no results. The women I matched with all ghosted me. Really did a number on my self-esteem. Who knows? Maybe I've got the face for radio?

And in all honesty, it feels like I've got to abide by ridiculous standards. The likes of being buff and tall, owning a car and house, a 6-figure salary, etc. I am still studying and trying to get my bachelor degree. All of these requirements put a ton of pressure on me. Is every woman looking for that? Of course not—that's not what I am implying. But from my personal experience it's certainly starting to feel that way.

Not surprised why redpill content is booming. They're not right, but there is truth to be found in some of their statements. In the end, I do introspection to identify my flaws and improve on myself. Nevertheless, even by doing all of that it feels like it's never enough.

[–] bouh@lemmy.world 15 points 10 months ago (1 children)

The problem with dating apps is about the app themselves mostly. They promote shitty behaviours.

When you're ghosted, it çan be from 3 reasons: you're actually ghosted ; the person is no more on the app ; the person didn't really looked at your profile, or it has too many matches.

It is very hard on self esteem and on your appreciation of the other sex.

[–] chic_luke@lemmy.world 10 points 10 months ago

Dating apps are crap. You literally have a higher success rate walking up to a random person at a bar than with a first message on Tinder. They could be a good tool, but we live in capitalism so they are made to extract as much profit as possible, even if that means promoting toxic, mental-health-crushing behaviours.

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