One of the admins at lemmy.blahaj.zone asked us to purge a community and all of its users because they thought it was full of child sexual abuse material, aka CSAM, fka kiddy porn. We assured them that we had checked this comm thoroughly and we were satisfied that all of the models on it were of age.
The admin then demanded we purge the comm because they mistook it for CSAM, and claimed that the entire point of the community was to make people think it was CSAM. We vehemently disagreed that that was in fact the point of the community, but they decided to defederate from us anyway. That is of course their choice, but we will not purge our communities or users because someone else makes a mistake of fact, and then lays the responsibility for their mistake at our feet.
If someone made a community intended to fool people into thinking it was kiddy porn, that would be a real problem. If someone of age goes online and pretends -- not roleplays, but pretends with intent to deceive -- to be a child and makes porn, that is a real problem. Nobody here is doing that.
One of the reasons we run our instance the way that we do is that we want it to be inclusive. We don't body shame, and we believe that all adults have a right to sexual expression. That means no adult on our instance is too thin, fat, bald, masculine, old, young, cis, gay, etc., to be sexy, and that includes adults that look younger than some people think they should. Everyone has a right to lust and to be lusted after. There's no way to draw a line that says "you can't like adult people that look like X" without crossing a line that we will not cross.
EDIT: OK, closing this post to new comments. Everything that needs saying has been said. Link to my convo with the blahaj admin here.
Jailbait is by definition people that are under legal age, or at least pretending to be. If someone is of legal age they by definition cannot be jailbait. The appeal there is the violation of the statutory taboo, the allure of the forbidden fruit. That is not OK and we won't tolerate that.
If a grownup has a round face and is wearing braces, which is the post that I suspect launched this whole kerfluffle, that's just how they look. I'm not going to tell them that they can't be sexy, or you that you can't be into them being sexy, because of their face or their dental work. Now, you can see why someone might be concerned that someone that has braces might be underage, since many people that are underage have braces. But once we've confirmed that they aren't underage, that should be the end of it.
Was it just that one post that caused all this? Honestly I was expecting something way worse not like a single post in a fairly active looking community...
They decided that because they mistook it for CSAM it should be taken down, and the entire community with it.
Because they assumed one image was CSAM.
It’s kinda nuts.
@KairuByte @Shit
After reading Ada's post and comments there (not removed, many were), it's my opinion the admins there wanted to defederate lemmynsfw anyway and this was a convenient excuse.
Regardless, it's their server. Many users there support the decision. Their right, and if the userbase wants that they've chosen the right instance for them. Those who don't want that outcome will move.
I’m inclined to agree with you. Though I’ll argue that most users over there are agreeing based on a colorful interpretation of what happened, assuming that there is indeed a community based around legal porn meant to look like CSAM… which doesn’t appear to be the case at all. Look at the community in question (!adorableporn@lemmynsfw.com) and you’ll notice a lack of anything encouraging people to present as underage.
Adults can be, and often are, adorable.
I wish one side would just post the chat logs between them to clear the air on what really happened.
I'm down if the blahaj admin is.
I got no skin in this game but you totally should reach out and ask her. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯ might clear the air on what's up.
I did. Let's see what they say.
Personally I would of just done it after they defederated if it really was as innocent as you make it sound. The story from both sides is kind of sus to me. I have no idea what to think it's either overblow over one picture in one community or part of the story is missing.
Also not calling you out. I would never want to mod a server like this it must already be stressful enough.
I got permission from blahaj so I posted it all.
Cool thanks for being transparent! I'll go make some popcorn 🍿
@KairuByte
I've seen it. IMO the side panel explicitly says "childlike" and I can see some might have a problem with that. It suggests the purpose Ada objected to over there. And I think mods and admins might want to change that text such that it makes no reference to underage anyone in the context of porn.
Clearly, all participants are over 18. Good.
I'm the new mod of a few hours at !adorableporn@lemmynsfw.com , and i have nothing to hide.
See pinned post https://lemmynsfw.com/post/419923 and comments as I was trying to update the community sidebar from a single line to what you see there now, and get feedback. I even have a "under construction" disclaimer.
Btw, the reference came as I was cut/paste from here https://www.vocabulary.com/dictionary/adorable
Did they change it? I don't see what you're saying is there.
Just went there, the sticky post has a comment suggesting they remove it and the moderator said they removed the phrase. That one was actually something problematic to leave there. Apparently they are changing rules and there's new mods or something
@twelves
There's a screenshot I included. Posted from Mastodon so maybe the image didn't propagate out to lemmy?
Coming here from Lemmynsfw and I see my screenshot did not propagate. It's ok. I'm sure ActivityPub devs will get the unified timeline down sometime. When will everyone switch to Zot?