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Based on what you wrote, referencing burnout, I suspect that the issue isn't that you need a hobby, it's that you need to make time to do nothing at all.
Go for walks in nature, away from technology, walk alone or with friends, laugh, tell stories, share secrets and dreams.
The more you do, the more resilience builds up, the better you can cope with stress and work.
Only then might you find joy in a hobby. For me it was Amateur Radio, but it might be different for you.
All good points. I make time with friends when I can, getting laid off from my job really messed me up. I had been there for 11 years a lot of my closer friends are tied to that job and people I worked with. I still go out to lunch or for coffee with them when possible, but I don't see them every day like I used to. I am going to double my efforts to spend time with them.
I really enjoyed learning to homebrew, and my family and friends really enjoyed drinking the mead I've made. You can homebrew all sorts of stuff, too - beer and wine of course, but also kombucha and ginger ale (edit: and cider! Thanks /u/cyberpunk007). I'm looking at professional kit for my next batch which is going to be a few hundred dollars at least of steel, but my first fermentation tubs were something like $35.
My only up-front recommendation would be to get a conical fermenter as it minimises loss when racking/bottling.
Homebrew is so fun, and I love how you can make it as complex as you want. Like, you can just mix some honey and some water (in the right ratio) and let it sit, and youβve got mead! Or you can add flavors. Or experiment with yeasts. Or brew beer and experiment with hops and grains. Itβs a hobby that really meets you where you want it to.
That sounds really cool. I am going to look into this some more.
Homebrew is a really good idea. You can get amazing results for relatively cheap investment. Take a look at the Robobrew and similar all in one kits. They're basically brew in a bag systems that work really well.
And cider! Holebrewing is a lot of fun, and you can definitely get started on the cheap.
It's really all going to depend on your tastes and lifestyle. Like I could recommend that you get a dog and start learning how to train dogs as a hobby, but that's just not going to work for everyone. What's important is that you explore things and maybe even try some hobbies that could potentially improve your well-being. Maybe you live somewhere near a good hiking spot and you could take up hiking to get outdoors and get more exercise. Maybe you could learn how to cook and explore how to make healthy meals that suit you better. Or maybe you just want to create something and you could take up woodworking or make model planes or something. The possibilities are endless, you just need to decide what you'd like to get out of it.
Personally, I spend most of my time for work indoors on a computer, so most of my hobbies involve using my hands and getting outdoors. I took up a lot of extra hobbies during covid for obvious reasons. So here goes my list of >!hobbies that will maybe give you some ideas:
Other things I've considered taking up but haven't for various reasons:
What kind of candy do you make? I make cannabis edibles. I've done gummies, peanut butter cups, caramels, and hard candies. I tried peppermint melts but they were really terrible!
I mostly make chocolate based candies, but I dabble in other candies from time to time like caramels, candied nuts, candied fruits/ginger/etc. I like to make candies around Christmas time to give to family and friends as they make really nice gifts.
Taking your initial post and this comment into consideration, you may be in a situation I find myself in (or I may be projecting, who knows). I started out with some regular ass depression and threw in what was originally some recreational weed consumption. After a while I found myself as a daily weed smoker. My partner seems to have a much different experience as a daily smoker than I do. For me it manifests itself as you are describing, just a lack of excitement about life. I feel like my weed hangover isnβt like an alcohol one, but rather it saps my motivation to do anything productive that Iβm not being held accountable for. If I was also unemployed and unable to find a job, Iβm sure it would be worse for me. At the moment, Iβve cut back on my consumption and am making it a point to only partake on weedkends. Pairing that with more exercise has worked well for me in the past, but I find it difficult to get in the exercise habit with that low level of motivated energy. Finding a form of exercise where you donβt notice the work youβre doing is also helpful. I donβt much like basketball, but a friend of mine invited me out to fuck around and shoot hoops with them. Probably the easiest time I had getting in some cardio without realizing it. Nowadays, Iβve got a rowing machine that I use while I watch streaming shows. I usually find my lust for life returning when Iβve put in the maintenance on the machine that is my body. Itβs a lot easier to feel alive when you feel alive.
I have a small machine shop where I make little doodads out of metal. All of my equipment is manual. If I want to cut metal on my lathe or mill, I'm spinning handwheels and engaging power feed levers. I then have to sit there, watch the beautiful blue steel chips fly, listen to the sound of the cut, and wait for the cut to be finished so I can turn off the power feed. Then I turn off the machine, get out my micrometers, carefully measure my cut, and do it again until I'm done. Then, I take the work out of the vise or chuck, grab my file, debur all of the sharp edges (I love the sound of a good file knocking off metal burrs), and get to work on the next part.
It's intensely peaceful. Machining tools are relatively quiet and stately (power woodworking tools scream like evil demons). Small hobby tools are slow, so you always have plenty of time to enjoy yourself. It requires a lot of planning and thinking, and it helps you develop a much more attuned mechanical touch. You get to make really cool shit out of the best material (i.e. metal), and it's a genuinely useful skill. I do software development, and I spend way too much time sitting at my desk. Machining is my escape.
One downside is that it can be expensive. Good tools cost money and good metal costs money. I'd guess that I have $20K invested in my shop, but I've also been doing this for 7 years now. The initial investment isn't that high. You can save a lot of money by making your own tools, which I didn't always do. Used tools are also a really great option (except for measuring tools, sometimes you have to buy those new). To get metal for cheaper, go to nearby machine shops and ask nicely if you can buy scraps from their offcut sections. If you tell them that you're learning machining, they'll be very likely to oblige!
The other downside is that it requires you to be careful. Human flesh is soft compared to metal. Machining is only dangerous if you're incautious, but I feel like it's important that I bring up safety when I recommend machining as a potential hobby.
If you're interested, check out Blondihacks on YouTube. She has some great videos on how to get started with your own hobby machine shop. I also really like Clickspring and This Old Tony. Clickspring has some good project videos on his channel, and TOT is hilarious and educational.
Here's the thing I'm most proud of making. I adapted the design of a 3D printed yarn winder to manual machining and built it from scratch. All of the metal parts started out as raw stock (everything is 4340 steel, except for the base plate which is ductile iron). The base is black walnut. The little feet are brass, with sorbothane feet on the bottom.
Honestly, that's really beautiful. I can tell you have a lot of passion for your hobby. I am going to look into this and subscribe to the youtube channels you listed. Thank you!
It's definitely been life-changing for me. I never had the "touch". When I'd do stuff around the house, I'd put in screws at crazy angles and drill holes in the wrong places on walls. I never felt like I could fix or build anything. Machine tools let you build crazy shit without relying on your visual reasoning or coordination. You want a hole at a spot? Move the handwheels to that spot and you're there. There's no fucking around. That built up my confidence, and the stuff that does require spatial reasoning (like using a file to turn a round hole into a square one) happens slowly enough that you can make mistakes and still be okay.
If you decide to get into it, I'd recommend getting a lathe first. if you can't afford a mill, a drill press is still very useful. You can do almost anything on a lathe if you try hard enough, and a drill press makes some things a lot easier. Blondihacks will have a lot more to say about it, but I believe that's her recommendation.
Ha ha, read this wonderful piece through thinking, sounds great but what would I ever make? And then omg, yarn winder. I'm a knitter, and my yarn winder is a plastic monstrosity. I mean I'm never going to do it myself, but there definitely is a market for beautifully machined yarn winders.
Iβm taking some welding classes later this year. Being able to fix or create things with a welder seems like a useful skill to have.
I suspect the intro classes are all the same regardless if you take welding into the art direction or the mechanical direction.
That's really cool. I've considered welding, seems really neat. Good luck, build something awesome!
Gymnastics. Seriously. You don't need to be all that athletic to do the core basics. You get fitter and have fun just throwing yourself onto big soft mats.
I recently got deep into making paper!
It's relatively simple, relaxing, and has a lot of repetitive tasks that take a while... So it's been fantastic for reading audiobooks! I also get to recycle old paper and cardboard instead of putting it into a bin and hoping that it's dealt with.
Every single piece of equipment can be made by hand for cheap though honestly I highly recommend a blender and a tub. Both of which could be replaced with hand made things but like... Why would you want to spend hours beating recycled paper to a pulp which you could put it into a blender for a little bit while doing something else.
It's also great for my debilitating RSD because even though it requires a specific touch to be gained... Every step except for literally the very last one can be repeated at any point with no downside.
If the pulp isn't blended right... Blend it more... If the deckle is unevenly covered... Just put it back in the water... Etc etc
I really think more people should do recycling stuff in general but this has been fantastic.
WOW! That's really neat, I've never considered something like that. Sounds really cool.
Are you looking for a new career as well? Or just a hobby? I sit in front of a computer all day and always thought being an electrician would be kind of neat. Decent money, get to work with your hands, and still some problem solving involved.
Edit: If you're looking for more of a hobby, volunteer conservation work may also be something to look into. Something like trail work. I did a few stints in my younger years, and they were transformative experiences for me. The folks who do this type of work are super interesting and passionate in my experience, and it can rub off on you.
I'll add that learning botany and taxonomy is VERY fun and rewarding. Going out in the field and discovering new plants and wildlife is a great treasure that always gives. It adds so much value to the outdoors
Woodworking. I love it. Wood is such a warm medium to work with, and it's a really easy hobby to get into, too. You don't have to buy expensive power tools, nor do you need to set a target of making fine furniture.
For me, I started out with scrap wood, trying to make as perfect as dovetail joint as possible, using just hand tools - a cross-cut saw and a good, sharp chisel.
That took me down a path of trying to learn different joinery techniques, which was a whole lot of fun. I bought a couple of joinery books from the big A and scrounged scraps from my local hardware to practice on. And, I know you said you wanted to get away from the computer, but there's some incredibly good woodworking channels on YT. I tend to avoid the ones that talk too much about what they're doing - I prefer to just watch masters at work. I find Japanese woodworking videos incredibly satisfying and enjoyable.
I don't get to indulge the hobby as much as I want - family life keeps me pretty busy nowadays - but, when I have the occasional afternoon to myself, I love spending it in my little workshop, mucking around with wood. I always come away from a bout of woodworking feeling relaxed.
Going thru similar shit right now myself I found an anchor in working out. I started from total zero - zero push ups, zero pull ups, zero sqats, zero crunches. I can do most of these now, with pullups to go still. But I also got into better mindset and learning discipline too. Good stuff that I've neglected for 20+ years.
Keep it up! That's great progress.
A few years ago, mid pandemic, I started collecting ancient coins. I was really passionate about it even thinking about finding ways to make it a small after-hours job or such, but I've since run into a few walls and have subsequently lost my drive. For example, I wanted to take very high resolution pictures of the coins and then compose a catalog of sorts, but while I have all the gear that I need (camera with a macro lens) my shots keep coming out wrong and I've since kind of given up on the idea altogether.
My entire life is one long succession of passionately started projects that got abandoned either midway or after heavy setbacks. If I ever find one that brings me lasting happiness, I'll gladly share it, but for now I'm just as much on the lookout as you are.
I know that feeling. You and I are on a mission to find what gives us purpose and happiness. I hope you find it, friend.
It's cliche but perhaps the journey is the purpose. I also have had a multitude of different hobbies throughout the years, but I enjoy learning new things. The aspect of learning a new hobby is often more fun than the hobby.
Have you deepened into jazz harmony theory? What about permaculture?
Learning buddhist meditation is also a great asset IMHO
Skill #1: You're fine just the way you are. You aren't lost, you're still deciding where to go.
My advice is to take an SDS test (career interest) to get your Holland code and learn about all the jobs that would excite you.
One of the former guitarists of thrash metal band Anthrax became a watch repairman. I think maybe he work(s/ed) on antique watches, but I might be making that part up. If you like working with your hands and challenging your mind, this could be great. I listened to a podcast miniseries about a guy who, among other things, repaired clocks. There was a lot of commentary about how reverse-engineering the original design was a big part of the job. (The show was S-Town / Shit-Town).
There are some great suggestions here already. In addition to creative stuff, I personally think it's super important to do something physical as well. I can't list all of the positive effects weightlifting has had on my life since I picked it up. I feel physically and mentally so much better in pretty much every way possible. If it interests you at all let me know I can give you some reading suggestions
While weightlifting is the go to example (and of the the most effective ones), it's by no means the only option. Yoga, a team sport, hiking, walking, biking, rollerblading, running, etc all would be great to do.
My mate started terrarium building.
For very little cost, you can look for second hand fish tanks and go for walks to collect moss, rocks, twigs etc. Weirdly it built more meaning to the more 'I need to move my body so I'll go for a walk'.
Now he likes hiking, and collecting moss along the way.
The actual terrariums are gorgeous too.
Maybe woodworking? It can get dusty and you need some room but you can also make smaller things that don't need big power tools or a lot of room. Like miniature things.
Or computer programming. Create an app. Or do something fun like follow one of the coding challenges from the YouTube channel The Coding Train
I was going to say the same. My husband likes gardening and builds all different kinds of planters - raised beds on the ground, elevated planters on wheels, small box planters with handles so he can easily carry it in/out for starting seeds.
Trades are great careers to be in now. Maybe cabinet making and volunteer at habitat for humanity? Learn something new that might help down the line, and do some good at the same time. Wiring, welding, or fixing an old car is another route to learn a useful and potentially employable skill.
Navigation?
Thought of a few more.
I should mention metal scraping, surface lapping and lens/mirror figuring (like for a telescope) too, since the other forms of metalworking have been brought up. For woodworking, there's all kinds of old techniques if you're looking for something a bit different. Cooper isn't just a last name.
Stone knapping, like to make arrowheads or similar. It's tricky I hear, but you can do it with any reasonably thick piece of glass to start, and move up to actual rocks eventually.
Weaving, spinning and of course knitting and sewing. Textile hobbies are associated with women, though, and Lemmy is mostly men, so you might get the occasional weird look.
Someone else mentioned canning, and I've done that one - I'm pretty good at it, too, although it's hard work. Taking normal food and making it last literally forever is neat, you just need to pay attention to all the details.
Metal working, (although kinda expensive to get into) sheet metal bending, machining, welding. I really enjoy learning and making real world useful parts out of metal.
Wood working/whittling Its cheap to learn and can be very rewarding. Id suggest to look at local stores for discarded pallets for free wood. To make a few things out of, aim for hardwood, but lots of them end up being pine.
Potentally electronics? (Although you said you didnt want a hobby that doesnt use computers)
Photography could be rewarding Going outside to parks and just taking pictures really helps feeling grounded an in the now. And you can show others your photos!
Drawing. It's seen as a skill reserved for an elite few, but in reality anyone can develop it. I learned it at school from lessons very similar to how Peter Gray teaches it (see this book for example on the Internet Archive).
All you need is a pad of paper, a few pencils and an eraser. And then sketch away, plants, people, landscapes, characters, whatever you want to explore.
Definitely a good idea. I've never been talented in drawing or painting, but that doesn't mean I can't develop it.