I’m in this rule and I don’t like it
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It doesn't necessarily help the cause of the problem, but it has been liberating for me to just tell people I just can't right now. I'm busy crying in the bathtub.
Pro life tip to y'all out there: when you're feeling down, talk to a friend about it! You don't even need to explain to them why you're sad if you don't want to! You can just say "I really don't want to elaborate on why, but I'm sad rn"
Some of you might be asking yourselves "But why would I talk to a friend about it if they can't help me/I don't want to bother them?" Well, for a myriad of reasons, really:
- Even if your friends can't help you at all, it feels really good to know that someone is cheering for you, and talking to them is the perfect way of reminding yourself of that. As you're overcoming hard times, you need that feeling to keep motivated.
- Venting also feels good, even with strangers. Is it because it forces you to put your feelings into words, making you think about your problems in another light? Is it because it feels good to just complain about your problems? I don't know, but it sure helps.
- If you don't want to say anything so to not bother your friends, I think you should want to bother them. If something was wrong with one of your friends, wouldn't you want for them to tell it to you? Friends like to worry for the wellbeing of each other, so let them worry with you.
It sucks being sad, but it's much preferable to be sad with the support of others than to be sad and alone. And I know it's not easy to share your feelings with others, but what do you have to lose?
I hope this advice has been helpful to someone.
Interesting advice. How does one acquire this “friend”.
my thoughts exactly, all my "friends" do is take drugs. where do I find good ones
There's always the real (and not really unwarranted) fear that they won't give a fuck
And further on, that after the third time of bringing it up, they will stop giving a fuck or just avoid you.
when you're too busy dealing with yourself
What about listening to music together with your friend/romantic partner while crying?
imagine having a partner lol
I don't have any. 😭💔
at least i have a friend...
Oops, forgot my meds.
hah it's a piece of paper with a green circle and a cloud and one of the corners is torn off and another is folded over 🤣🤣🤣