I wonder if it wouldn't be smarter to like get a cheap netbook or something and just sync paperless to it daily, and have it set up for easy grab-and-go.. or even have it be the storage with a share that paperless in the lab uses?
homelab
I guess what I could do is set up a specific storage path for Vital Documents and make sure that all the info that's needed is in the path, so then I can just back that up to a USB drive and it'll be easy to grab and put into her computer. Much cheaper, and probably much easier too.
i would do that but with a externl drive so you can do more than just the paperless stuff like pics etc if needed. i backup my data to local drive, cloud drive and external usb that i keep at my brothers house.
Hyper Backup supports an external drive, so I set it up to go off my NAS. This is pretty great.
From your description, this new box would not be necessarily have to be a full homelab-in-a-box but needs to be enough to run on its own, with possibly an umbilical cord to your normal homelab for regular syncing. The new box needs to be fairly user-friendly, in the sense that someone else can connect it to their monitor/keyboard/mouse, enter a password, and be able to browse all the documents.
The first thing that comes to mind for me is a NUC or other small form-factor PC, with capacity for your desired SSDs. On a daily basis, this would sit somewhere convenient, like a home or maybe off-site from your homelab, with only power and a network connection. But it would run an OS with a GUI -- GNOME? -- even though it mostly runs headless. All your syncing could be done with rsync or whatever, and neither your homelab nor this machine should require the other in order to function properly, retaining independence. This machine could then be easily disconnected and tested semi-annually to make sure that it will work properly when the time comes.
Is this the sort of answer you're looking for?
Also, TIL paperless-ngx
Silly question but why would your (likely) nontechnical spouse need to access your homelab? If you die they will most likely need paperwork and money, not some hobby project.
They don't need the homelab, they need the docs that are stored there (preferably without having to muck around with the homelab at all).