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What are yours "I have never did/had"? (lemmynsfw.com)

submitted 3 months ago* (last edited 3 months ago) by Mascara@lemmynsfw.com to c/casualconversation@lemm.ee

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I have never driven a car. I have never went to camping. I have never went on a trip. I have never went beyond middle school. I have never went to prom. I have never had real friends after reaching teenage. I had never had a girlfriend. I never had sex. I have never lived by my own. I have never travelled alone. I have never been in a concert. I haven't felt genuine happiness since I've became a teenager.

So, what are yours? I won't judge you.

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[–] shinigamiookamiryuu@lemm.ee 4 points 3 months ago (2 children)

Any listener would be here all day if they wanted to hear all the things I've never done. I never owned a vehicle. I never owned a bicycle. I never learned to ride one. I never learned to dance. I never learned to sing. I never learned to swim. I never learned CPR. I never learned an instrument. I never learned to knit or sew. I never learned sign language. I never crossed the border. I never went to Disneyworld. I never went to Universal. I never saw The Wizard of Oz from start to finish. I never saw a James Bond movie. I never saw Old Yeller. I never saw E.T. I never saw or met many of my relatives. And I too can relate to the eighth thing you said (you're not any lesser than I am because of that or anything else... as a human who still tries their best).

Hmm... you mention never going beyond middle school... then mentioning happiness and teenage years... did something happen in your teenage years that ended your happiness?

[–] Mascara@lemmynsfw.com 1 points 3 months ago (1 children)

My parents divorced, moving in with my grandparents, never learned how to make friends, failing at math, going from home to school and nothing else.

[–] shinigamiookamiryuu@lemm.ee 3 points 3 months ago

As someone with this problem, I've always been conflicted at the notion of oneself not being able to make friends. I myself can relate to those words in a way, often drawing a blank at knowing what things to say in a conversation to keep it alive and this seems like it would make things underwhelming for most people. But on the other hand, knowing I myself have the power not to mind is like a reminder to me that there are no universal rules one must follow in friendship maintenance. Socialization is just a standard, and so are most of the things people typically expect out of others. I would imbue faith in the goal of finding these more easy people if it was easy, but I know it's not, though I can still offer myself and do offer myself. I'm very ubiquitous (there are many who know this well) if you ever want a lady friend to talk to, and it would make me feel good if I can help you build up. I'm sorry about your parental situation, I certainly cannot fully replace anyone's parents but hope I can be good for what's important. Also, I probably suck at math more than you.