And before some smartass goes like: "are you living in the 90s? Girls play videogames dude, I'm a girl gamer! I even play Fortnite and CoD with my roommates."

Videogames in terms of the crowds that attracts is male dominated, especially as adults. Some girls replying that they play doesn't change that fact. I've never met a single girl into games... except one. My English teacher, she was younger than me, I think barely an adult (night school for adults). But I quit that place without finishing the studies and never connected with teachers, plus we're from different countries, there's no common ground, aside that I've never an adult woman into them. Do they think they're silly and childish?

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[–] Kojichan@lemmy.world 7 points 3 months ago (6 children)

Hate to do what you said you didn't want to hear, but it's the truth.

There are lots of girls or women who love gaming. Not just girly casual games, either. We just don't make it publicly known. You may have known a few more girl gamers, but they wouldn't ever dare tell you or be open about it.

A girl gamer, even back then, is someone who is ridiculed, made fun of, picked on and bullied to no end. You learn to stop making your hobbies public, especially if you don't want to be destroyed psychologically. That means lying about your hobbies.

It is more openly accepted for guys to play games, but not for girls. We're supposed to be playing with dolls, playing house, and learning how to raise children, not goofing off. Not to mention, personal tastes and interests and how they were brought up.

It's like asking how many boys play with dolls, or make believe with girly interests.

Your fact may stand from your perspective, and you may have known a lot of non gamers as that's how they grew up, but keep in mind that the potential for being bullied or accused of using your gender to garner attention really forces us to remain behind closed doors for protection.

Just because you don't see it, doesn't mean it isn't happening.

It's just unfortunate that you seem to only be noticing the superficial layer to this.

Admittedly, it is getting better, but it's still not a world where one can be so public about "masculine-centric" hobbies, not just gaming.

Expand your circle of friends and you may find more. :)

Asking here is a good way to see how many other females there really are. We're more comfortable talking here, behind some layer of anonymity.

[–] Mascara@lemmynsfw.com -3 points 3 months ago* (last edited 3 months ago) (2 children)

I don't have friends. I'm talking about people in general that I knew and I didn't knew. Nah, majority of women don't care about games.

[–] Marighost@lemm.ee 4 points 3 months ago

I don't have friends.

I'm not trying to be mean when I say this: you ought to consider making friends before attempting an intimate relationship.

[–] jet@hackertalks.com 3 points 3 months ago (1 children)

Why don't you have friends?

[–] Mascara@lemmynsfw.com 1 points 3 months ago (1 children)

How's that relevant?

[–] jet@hackertalks.com 6 points 3 months ago* (last edited 3 months ago) (1 children)

Just concerned for you as a person.

How's that relevant?

This kind of stand-offish response could make it harder to make friends in the long term.

[–] Mascara@lemmynsfw.com 0 points 3 months ago

Don't be.

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