anti_cishet_aktion
A space for LGBTQIA+ people to express themselves.
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There’s a certain paradox at play here. The argument has long been, sexuality and gender identity are innate, you’re born that way. It’s a useful framing both because it’s an absolute reflection of gender and sexuality on a personal level, but also moves LGBT status into the realm of intrinsic characteristic, similar to ethnicity or national origin.
But people chose what’s more socially conducive over their innate characteristics all the time. A cop can hate what they do for a living all they want, they’re still a cop at the end of the day. So from a social standpoint, the Larry “wide stance” Craig’s of the world are straight. And historically this has been a thing, societies in which people (mostly men) having same-sex intercourse is accepted, or at least a blind eye is turned to it, but they’re still expected to maintain a heteronormative household.
There’s a rough analogy with race here. Much as the personal aspects of race are recognized as separate from the systemic aspects, personal sexuality and social sexual identity are separate. You can’t choose the former but you can choose the latter.