I'm sorry to hear that, those types are so much trouble to deal with. I had a deeply narcissistic roommate in college who felt they always knew what others were feeling/thinking. They got quite abusive by the end and it really messed me up for a while. All that to say, I know that type of pain.

I think maybe narcissistic types tend to seek out patient, understanding people. Maybe consciously they think they're looking for love and understanding, but unconsciously it seems like they're looking for people they can reliably abuse when they're having a bad day, y'know?

I don't put up with those sorts anymore, it makes life much simpler.