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Would you think less of a potential partner if they didn't know first aid? (leminal.space)

submitted 2 months ago* (last edited 2 months ago) by CorrodedCranium@leminal.space to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

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It seems more like a job requirement but I feel like it's quite important to me that whoever I date knows first aid.

I imagine someone who hasn't taken a first aid course is still aware of things frequently depicted in movies and TV like how to assist a choking adult or CPR but I feel like it still leaves out a lot.

I can't really recall a lot of media depicting how to treat burns or how to perform first aid on children, cats, and dogs for example so I'm not sure if that would be absorbed to the same degree by cultural osmosis.

Edit: What I meant by my question was if you found out someone you were interested in didn't know first aid and didn't express an interest in it if you'd view it as a negative.

It doesn't necessarily mean you won't date them.

I'm more curious about how important of a factor it would be to people.

I'm not sure why this is being down voted. Do people not care for these kind of questions and want me to delete it?

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[–] Vanth@reddthat.com 3 points 2 months ago (2 children)

Eh, I can think of some context dependencies. I don't have a blanket expectation for first aid knowledge.

For example, I like backpacking. I go on several multi-day trips per year. I don't necessarily need a partner to like backpacking too; I'm fine enjoying my hobby myself or with friends. But if they do like backpacking and haven't done the work of learning an appropriate level of first aid, I will absolutely judge them negatively. People should not go wandering into the backcountry, away from people and cell service, with absolutely no idea how to take care of themselves.

Someone who never has a need to get far from medical experts? Much more understandable to me if they don't prioritize learning first aid.

Basically, don't be a reckless dumbass.

[–] xilliah@beehaw.org 1 points 2 months ago

Hey can you give me some starter pointers? I'm going on a bike trip and will also hike in nature and don't have any first aid training.

[–] CorrodedCranium@leminal.space 1 points 2 months ago (2 children)

To me it's more about helping each other out when accidents or something generally unexpected happens.

Having a stroke doesn't require reckless behaviour.

[–] Vanth@reddthat.com 5 points 2 months ago (1 children)

Well, I would certainly expect any adult human, not just one I'm in a relationship with, to call for medical aid if they see someone having a stroke. That's basically what first aid for a stroke is; get medical help. I don't think that requires any special training, just not being an asshole.

So expanding upon relationship expectations then: don't be a reckless dumbass and don't be an asshole.

[–] CorrodedCranium@leminal.space 1 points 2 months ago (1 children)

With the example of a stroke I'd say recognizing the signs of a stroke is part of first aid.

[–] Vanth@reddthat.com 1 points 2 months ago

I guess that's basic grade school Health class stuff where I'm from and I don't consider it "first aid training". So I expect someone to have paid attention in school when they talked about life critical things? Radio, internet, school, TV, so many things blast FAST at the public.

Which still falls under "not a reckless dumbass and not an asshole".

[–] BCsven@lemmy.ca 2 points 2 months ago (1 children)

I mean if that is your relationahip requirement just throw it out there upon connecting, but also just because somebody knows FirstAid does nit mean they will save you, you also need to find out if they can be level headed when it is an emergency situation with a partner. If they panic because it is you in trouble they may be useless.

[–] CorrodedCranium@leminal.space 1 points 2 months ago

A level head is definitely an asset but I feel like having some familiarity with the situation can help.

Even if they don't feel capable of doing anything themselves it should help them identify symptoms of a medical emergency or relay relevant information to medical professionals.