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[โ€“] evranch@lemmy.ca 3 points 1 year ago

I have considered it for exactly that reason. My family is healthy and happy except for that my wife completely lost her sex drive after childbirth and finds sex not just to be a chore but to be completely revolting.

I don't want to tear my family apart just to get laid. I'm not interested in loving some other woman or having an affair, I love my wife and my daughter and I have no need for another relationship.

However it's been years of celibacy and what I do need is sex, but without romance and with a professional who as they say "you don't pay them for the sex, you pay them to leave afterwards".