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[โ€“] Asymptote@lemmy.dbzer0.com 13 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I was a mess and even though we were both hot to trot I did not want to enter into a relationship before getting my shit together.

It's been a few decades now but I'm sure that one day I will... not sure my wife will understand though ๐Ÿ˜‚

[โ€“] Devgard@lemmy.world 5 points 1 year ago (1 children)

going through this rn, but congrats on finding some peace with it

In my case, and in retrospect, it was in large part caused by undiagnosed ADHD and autism.

From a single sentence I wouldn't be able to say one way or the other whether it's something that affects you, but it was immensely helpful to look at a series of videos about "Adult ADHD" on YouTube. It became clear that a major portion of my issues could be attributed to my lack of knowledge about myself and these issues.