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Please don't think I'm here to complain about rizz or skibidi toilet etc. Thats all fine by me.

The term I dislike strongly is 'eeeh' before you make a statement disagreeing with someone. (This is over text only). Now maybe I've been pavloved bc it's always used by someone disagreeing. But I'm happy with people disagreeing with me normally its just the 'eeeh' or 'erm' that annoys me.

So what's a random term that annoys you?

PS. Saying "eeeh actually 'eeh' is a perfectly fine term" would be a ridiculously easy joke and I will judge you for making it. And I know atleast one person will. Especially bow that I've said all this.

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[โ€“] christian@lemmy.ml 11 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago) (2 children)

Using the phrase "serious question" or "honest question" will make me immediately assume your question is the exact opposite of that. Probably I'm overreacting, but expecting that anyone might respect that declaration you've made about your own question, that gives me narcissist vibes.

[โ€“] klemptor@startrek.website 12 points 1 month ago (1 children)

Sometimes it's meant like "I'm about to ask what might sound like a dumb question, but I'm genuinely asking, so please take me seriously."

Or questions that sound like they're rhetorical, or being asked for provocation's sake, but are being asked in good faith.

Source: I say 'honest question' a lot, and not as a rhetorical device - I just want real answers to questions that might be dumb/asked dishonestly (e.g. as put-downs) in other contexts.

[โ€“] klemptor@startrek.website 3 points 1 month ago

Sometimes it's meant like "I'm about to ask what might sound like a dumb question, but I'm genuinely asking, so please take me seriously."