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Most people aren't attracted to an entire gender so why do we frame attraction in those terms so much? (slrpnk.net)
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[–] Alph4d0g@discuss.tchncs.de 8 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

I would consider myself generally attracted to an entire gender. The degrees of attraction is what varies. It goes from low to high based on something mysterious in my brain. I also recognize that is how I happen to be wired but others are wired differently. In the end, that diversity of wiring keeps humans interesting and diverse in both thinking and biology.

[–] taladar@sh.itjust.works 3 points 2 weeks ago (3 children)

Technically speaking I would assume you are at most attracted to an entire gender of your own species, possibly also limited to certain age ranges.

[–] Alph4d0g@discuss.tchncs.de 2 points 2 weeks ago

True. And funny thing to add to that. As I age, so does that wiring. Where I used to put more weight on appearance, I'm now more likely to be turned off by certain behaviors one might describe as pedantry.

[–] LifeInMultipleChoice@lemmy.dbzer0.com 1 points 2 weeks ago

When I was younger let's say 10, I couldn't understand how people found older people attractive. It is amazing how it changes over time. Had you asked me if I thought a 50 year old women could be attractive, to me at 10, never could have.. at 35.. they are slowly becoming more and more attractive.