Five days ago, drag was banned from !politicalmemes@lemmy.world for using neopronouns. A comment explaining drag's pronouns, and a comment saying "drag" isn't a nickname, were removed with the reason "trolling". Drag understands why someone would think that using different pronouns than most people is trolling - transphobia. However, drag is confused how on earth not liking a nickname is a violation of any rules anywhere.
Context of the removed comments:
Drag would like to pre-empt any further accusations of trolling by asking a question: If drag were a right wing troll, and you chose to freely accept drag's pronouns, wouldn't that completely neuter the trolling attempt? Trolling is about trying to make others upset. You don't have to get upset when someone uses unusual pronouns. If you aren't transphobic, then it's impossible to troll you that way. And drag promises: drag wants you to not be transphobic. Drag is not trying to upset anyone. If you do what drag wants you to do, then you get what you want too. This is a non-issue, there's only a problem if you want there to be.
EDIT: DRAG DID NOT TELL ANYBODY TO USE DRAG'S PREFERRED PRONOUNS.
Drag has neither insisted anyone use drag's pronouns, nor complained about being misunderstood. It seems like the scenario you're describing as a problem hasn't happened. Is this intended to be a warning for the future?
"Drag is not using third person" may not be intended to be a complaint, but wouldn't you say that someone who parses the sentence as you using third person misunderstands it?
They're going to learn better eventually. It's just a matter of how many chances they get to be respectful before they decide to stop being stubborn and mean. Drag believes that anyone will improve if they're given enough chances. Drag is telling them the truth without judgement, and waiting to see what they choose to do with it. A lot of people have already chosen to accept the truth and stop being angry over nothing. As time goes on, the share of people who are choosing not to pick pointless fights will rise. And then the people who are still mad will get downvoted and reported and moderated, and they'll have to give up on being stubborn. Drag is choosing patience because drag can see that future down the road. Drag doesn't need to complain in order for that future to happen.
The problem with that approach is that is is the truth from your perspective only, and nobody is going to learn better if your "explanations" just amount to "you're wrong". From most people's perspective, this is indistinguishable from trolling and I don't think comments like this or this are going to convince them otherwise - someone who deliberately uses language in a very uncommon way should probably not justify it with a dictionary.
Drag believes very strongly in language. That's why drag changes language; drag cares about it and wants to improve it. It's like the hot rodders who love their cars and are always improving them. Or the programmers who contribute to the open source projects they love. Drag thinks drag knows a lot about language, and drag sure likes spending long hours thinking about how language works. You might say linguistics is a hobby to drag. And drag isn't the kind of hobbyist who only studies and never tinkers.
You’re not improving language you’re making yourself look foolish and self aggrandizing
Yeah language is something that takes a group effort to change, trying to change it on your own only is bound to cause miscommunication and misinterpretation. After all language is only useful if others speak it, if you fork and modify English with your own changes that no one else agrees to then it doesn't do anyone any good.
CC: @dragonfucker@lemmy.nz