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I often see rhetoric stating that its more important how people perceive what youβre saying, as opposed to how you intended to have it sound.
I wonder how I could edit my question to make this more clear? Where I live this is a common concept. But for other people maybe not. I've done a great job of confusing everyone so far.
If you're on PC I think you should be able to click the 3 vertical dots below the post title and edit the description.
On topic, IMO there is nuance in the answer to your question.
When perception and intention are 'positive', perception is more important. When perception and intention are 'negative', intention is a deal breaker.
oh whoops, I meant like how could I better phrase the question to make it make more sense.
I agree with you about the nuance part. That's a very important part of communication too, I think, just being able to understand the nuance in things like this.