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[โ€“] myusernameis@lemmy.ca 4 points 1 week ago (2 children)

Yup, I specifically use y'all and recommend it to people (like my parents) to replace gendered phrases, and I'm not from the y'all zone.

Still up for debate, "dude" and "hun/hon".

*I'm a trans woman also

[โ€“] Drivebyhaiku@lemmy.world 2 points 6 days ago

I feel like I have watched in real time as Y'all has gained usage up in the Canadian Queer community.

I am old enough to still regard "hon" as demi hostile but "dude" seems to be drifting more and more gender neutral. At heart we may all just be ninja turtles all the way down

[โ€“] ouRKaoS 3 points 1 week ago (1 children)

As a cis male, I've exclusively been called "Hun / Hon" by waitresses and gay men.

I've not been offended by any of them.

[โ€“] Drivebyhaiku@lemmy.world 2 points 6 days ago* (last edited 6 days ago) (1 children)

There's a hidden usage of "hon" from the history of the toxic trans communities message boards to mean "trans women who don't pass" and is used condescendingly. That usage is basically dead in the water and barely known outside of a pretty narrow sliver of the queer community but it can still get you a side eye in some places.

[โ€“] ouRKaoS 1 points 6 days ago

Oof, noted.

I'll keep that in my head as something to watch for