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What are some dating mistakes you often see when people try seeking a partner? (kbin.melroy.org)
submitted 14 hours ago by Nyxicas@kbin.melroy.org to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml
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I have a few.

One is abbreviation hell. Nobody is going to spend the time trying to decipher what you mean when you use over several abbreviations. It is just better if you'd explain than expecting people to understand aside from commonly used abbreviations that are easy to understand.

Another is overstepping your limits for the sake of getting a partner. Compromising your own standards is perhaps one of the worst things you can do when it comes to trying to find dates. Like you're suddenly okay with dating single parents but you don't like children. You're suddenly okay with dating religious people but you're not religious. Things like that. Because it means you're desperate and you're setting yourself up and setting them up for a bad date.

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[โ€“] halykthered@lemmy.ml 12 points 13 hours ago (2 children)

No idea. I always tell them how nice I am, I always hold the door for them, and I even shower before we meet up. I've even going so far as to pick them up at their houses, they never seem to appreciate it. Some have reacted quite unexpectedly, slamming the door and yelling about police. I've learned to never show initiative and learn their address beforehand, as the effort is never reciprocated. Maybe if I was some knuckledragging douchebag, I'd get some of the attention I deserve.

[โ€“] Aussiemandeus@aussie.zone 20 points 12 hours ago (2 children)

I find if you visit them in their bedroom for a surprise you can get to know how they react under stressful situations.

Honestly to me that's really important. I need someone who is cool and calm under pressure

[โ€“] halykthered@lemmy.ml 9 points 10 hours ago

Can you imagine hitching your wagon to someone only to find out years later that they can't stay focused while under the effects of teargas?

[โ€“] cyborganism@lemmy.ca 21 points 13 hours ago (2 children)

That's..... That's a joke right?

[โ€“] halykthered@lemmy.ml 12 points 12 hours ago (1 children)

It says a lot about the strange people you meet online that, had I never responded, no one but me would truly know if this offhand comment actually came from a deranged stalker or just some drunk and bored idiot looking to do some light trolling.

[โ€“] stinky@redlemmy.com 5 points 11 hours ago (1 children)

It's masterful

[โ€“] halykthered@lemmy.ml 9 points 10 hours ago

Why thank you, it took many edits to get it to the point where it was creepy but believable.

[โ€“] inb4_FoundTheVegan@lemmy.world 7 points 12 hours ago

I'm gonna say probably a joke, but we all know where exactly to find a dead serious version