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Isn’t this very context dependent?
For a small question it makes the most sense to just ask but often in work question can be much more complex. And the pre question or hello is pretty much: “Do you have a few minutes of time to read about and discuss this issue”
I have a colleague who just drops a wall of text on me. With varying levels of work-related/importancy and i find it very annoying depending on what i am doing.
Also if i contact someone who i know is very busy id like to know if they have time available to chat or call about x.
I am neurodivergent though, i am used to bigger chats because i hate calling and phone calls without heads up really bother me. It seems so pretentious to just on a whim go “STOP WHAT YOUR DOING AND HEAR ME”
It's fine if your actually mention what you want to talk about
But just "hi" is terrible
If you need a few minutes or a one on one then that is the question and it's perfectly fine to ask for it. "Hey, I need help with X, can you assist me? when would it be a good time to call each other for a couple of minutes or have a long real time chat?" There, now the person has the power to say no, thus it is not imposing on their time anymore and you have used the strength of text chat to it's full extend.
Hello does not imply any of that, quite the opposite, hello incites anxiety and ambiguity on most people precisely because you don't know if this will be a short fired one off question, a friendly salutation, or a long technical problem solving convo.
For what is worth, I'm neurotypical and absolutely hate massive group chats. Can't tolerate stream chats, despise discord with a passion, avoid slack and team's group chat like the plague. Most of my coworkers think the same, we call all of those the productivity theater. They exist to massage management egos into thinking they are providing value to a team by performing public assistance scenes to project a productivity that is not actually happening. Actual productivity occurs when fulfilling solo task or very tight group tasks of two or three people max. But management likes to see the monkeys dance.