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submitted 10 months ago by _number8_@lemmy.world to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

like either a dumbass posting stupid shit, unfair bans, idiotic arguments, etc etc. i feel so incredibly stupid letting it affect me at all, but then also there's real feelings mixed in there because it's a real argument i give a shit about to some degree. so it's this odd double crossing where i know it's stupid but i process it as being real.

bonus points for not answering 'go outside drink water read a book' etc etc

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[-] Tiritibambix@lemmy.ml 16 points 10 months ago

Reddit taught me this. It's great to cope with frustration while not engaging in a sterile argument.

[-] lolgcat@lemmy.ml 1 points 10 months ago

It's a good idea. You get to rehearse your response to something touchy that somebody might mention IRL at a dinner or campfire or whatever. It helps you evaluate your own understanding before saying something ignorant or too extreme that winds up negatively affecting a good friendship.

When I first started participating online I made the mistake of regurgitating IRL a lot of opinions and garbage I read in spaces I thought I agreed with, at least adjacently. When I noticed other people doing this in my cohort I got a serious case of the cringe and made an effort to be a little more real to myself.

Now various channels are other worlds to practice my thoughts before expressing them materially, before possibly causing discomfort to people I like. I'm thankful for online spaces taking the burrs off or otherwise letting the dough proof

this post was submitted on 28 Aug 2023
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