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what can it mean when a girl (a friend) suddenly acts odd ? (lemmy.blahaj.zone)

submitted 19 hours ago by galactic@lemmy.blahaj.zone to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

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i don’t really need advice yet, it’s just a question. a girl im friends with acts really odd. we are friends, and we used to talk a lot, but then she started getting quieter, making less eye contact.

she also started being tenser/snippy at times.

when she’s not snippy, she’s just very quiet, which is most of the time. sometimes she’ll scoot over next to me but then scoot away, or act like she wants to sit by me but then goes away.

she doesn’t seem to be acting rude at all or mad at me. she will be nice, like smiling and waving and saying “hello”, or energetic when she can respond over text, so i don’t believe i’ve done anything to hurt her, but it’s just been really odd. what, from your experience, make a friend start acting this way? (especially girl because idk about guy friend behaviors)

most of the time, she acts normal, and i appreciate our friendship, and she seems to not hate me or anything like i said

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[–] galactic@lemmy.blahaj.zone 6 points 18 hours ago (4 children)

I have asked her and she just says shes fine. She also can act completely normal and seems friendly, like shes not upset with me or anything, just normal, and doesnt indicate shes upset besides that, but its really odd. Its like she wants to hang with me but something’s preventing her? She even said i could go to her house so…

[–] Banana@sh.itjust.works 4 points 17 hours ago (3 children)

Idk man I think she might like you. I used to be like that as a teen, extra self conscious in front of my crushes

[–] KittenBiscuits@lemm.ee 2 points 17 hours ago (2 children)

This is my take as well. She's happy to see/ talk to you, but she thinks she's sending out some kind of hint or another then gets moody when she thinks you haven't picked up on a vague hint and responded in kind.

If she's said you can come over (again, vaguely vs outright asking you to come hang out on X day), then ask her if this Saturday would be good? Figure out a movie to stream. After you start it, get a cozy blanket and ask her if she wants to snuggle while watching the movie?

This would have totally worked on teen me.

[–] galactic@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 points 15 hours ago* (last edited 15 hours ago) (1 children)

She's usually busy with sports/inactive on phone. plus, she and her ex like each other (tho she says it's not true, they flirt and ex fs likes her) and her ex happens to be a close friend

But i'll try asking

[–] flicker@lemmy.dbzer0.com 2 points 8 hours ago

If she says she doesn't like him like that, she might be telling the truth.

But she might also have something personal going on she can't talk about. Give it time and either it will come out, or it won't, and this is just how she is now.