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»I« am probably bullying myself at work the most. I feel like a walking lie. Just ... fake, like, that person that you see there, it's not even really »me«. I cannot stop the pretend 🤦 conditioned to feel that the mean attitude of people from my past and their opinions on me is my identity ....
I'll try to accept that maybe for the others the feelings I experience is not how they think about me and, perhaps, grow a little bit further out of my internalized shame. Hmm..
It can be really hard to recognize and reprogram automatic negative thoughts... I don't know you and don't want to jump to conclusions about you from a single comment, but I thought it could be helpful to share this info.
The "What? Me Worry" evidence-based module available here for free has great education on how to engage in cognitive restructuring, which is all about evaluating the evidence for and against a belief, and altering it to make it more accurate (not more positive, but it just so happens that the more accurate beliefs tend to be more positive than the automatic negative thoughts).
This is an awesome website full of free evidence-based resources that I used in clinical interventions with my former Clients. Love to share it online. I've found a lot of the material very helpful myself.
I see you also work in IT, jk. Lol
I actually did work in IT 🫣
Imposter syndrome