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What's a skill that's taken for granted where you live, but is often missing in people moving there from abroad? (kyu.de)

submitted 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) by aard@kyu.de to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

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I was thinking about that when I was dropping my 6 year old off at some hobbies earlier - it's pretty much expected to have learned how to ride a bicycle before starting school, and it massively expands the area you can go to by yourself. When she went to school by bicycle she can easily make a detour via a shop to spend some pocket money before coming home, while by foot that'd be rather time consuming.

Quite a lot of friends from outside of Europe either can't ride a bicycle, or were learning it as adult after moving here, though.

edit: the high number of replies mentioning "swimming" made me realize that I had that filed as a basic skill pretty much everybody has - probably due to swimming lessons being a mandatory part of school education here.

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[–] Zeth0s@lemmy.world 32 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (12 children)

Male being good at talking and flirting with girls. Where I grew up (south of Italy) you have to be able to know what to do as a young heterosexual man, otherwise girls would completely ignore you. When I was young, italian girls expected "work" from boys, a lot of work. You could not throw money or take shortcuts (I don't know if it is still valid).

When I moved to north of Europe, in 3 different countries, I realized that for north european guys existing was enough to get many girls. It was so easy, girls flirt with you, they literally go after boys. You could do nothing and a girl would start flirting with you. And being decent at talking with girls meant that any average Italian guy abroad was a Don Giovanni.

[–] cubedsteaks 9 points 1 year ago (1 children)

You could do nothing and a girl would start flirting with you

does this work for lesbians too?

[–] Mr_Blott@feddit.uk 7 points 1 year ago (2 children)

On a night out in Newcastle? Absolutely, sweetheart

[–] Zeth0s@lemmy.world 3 points 1 year ago

UK is one of the 3 countries I mentioned! Nights out in uk were a pretty strong (positive) surprise for me

[–] cubedsteaks 1 points 1 year ago

yeah, guess that should be my next vacation lol!

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