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As the title says, I wanna get bottom surgery, but the thing is, I live in a country which has little rights to death penalty for lgbt folks, and I live in a restrictive family that are bigoted and filed with hate. Every time when I get hyped about bottom surgery, I remember I live with worst family in a worst country

And that makes me feel down bad, I just get sad every time when I think about it.

And I was wondering what will be my friends (Online and irl) and my family reaction like if I ever said I wanna get bottom surgery? This scenario makes me heated up and afraid if I ever said it to them I’m now just sitting in my room, so pissed off I live in this country

I wanna get at least help or advice regarding my situation

Thanks to anyone who replied to this post

Bye comrades <3

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[–] Makan@lemmygrad.ml 3 points 6 days ago (1 children)

I thought I was too old at that point. But then I followed that logic, and my 60 year old self would likely be just as angry at me for not doing it.


Didn't think about it like that...

Frankly, the imposter syndrome is fucking REAL when it comes to gender dysphoria and I hate it.

[–] WhatWouldKarlDo@lemmygrad.ml 3 points 6 days ago

Yeah. It really is. I still have my doubts about whether I'm trans or not. They're fading, but still there. But again, it was a shift in perspective that made me go through with it. Even if the hormones didn't do anything at my age, I would still get some curves in the right places. I would still be happy with that, even if not the dramatic change I wanted. Worst case scenario sounded pretty good to me (totally cis thoughts, right?). If the best case happened, I would figure out what to do then.

It turns out I wasn't too old, and jumped at the chance to switch completely as soon as I could. And what do you know? The dysphoria is gone now, and I don't miss my old life. I'm starting to really believe that I might not be cis. And I think my 60 year old self is going to be proud of me.