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Lol...
Dude has his parents setting up profiles on "matrimony sites" and thinks the part of that that is outdated is the fuckin web interface?
Like, imagine writing that, thinking LinkedIn would become a dating site...
And all your potential "dates" would see your comment about how Mummy and Daddy couldn't arrange a marriage for you.
They want LinkedIn to be a dating site, because it says how much they make. And that's the only thing they have going for them.
You're judging based on arbitrary standards of the "modern" and "correct" way to find a partner.
I'm pretty sure the people who choose to find a partner by having their parents make profiles on "matrimony websites" are doing it wrong...
Now, I have zero experience with that tactic, but even the LinkedIn Lunatic seems to agree it's not the best plan
So it's not arbitrary standards, it's based on that person saying it's not working.
What's confusing is they don't seem to understandwhy women in 2025 aren't attracted to that method
Who wants to marry a guy based on an ad his mother wrote? Every woman I know would see that as a giant red flag and run for the hills. Which again, seems to be what the person who tried it also found out...
Maybe for you and your culture but in most of the world it's not how life is. Inlaws are a big part of marital life and without having your parent bride-hunt for you, you could easy understand the appeal of knowing ahead of time that the person with which you start to build a relation already get along with your parents and you get along with theirs.
Cool, give me a single example where parents picking their kids marriage partners and women have equal rights.
I couldn't find one when I looked yesterday.
I am pretty sure the women on those sites don't decide who to marry themselves either. It is very likely their parents too.
Parent can make all the dates they want...
Doesn't mean she's going to show up, or if she does that she's going to like the guy.
Like, irrespective of country or culture. Parents try to set up their kids, and it rarely works out except in countries where daughters are essentially property.
If you're referring to a country/culture where the women can't say no...
That's not arranged marriages, that's human trafficking at best.
I didn't say I am in favor of it but it very likely is one of those cultures or countries.
You're gonna need a source for this. And this is a very backwards view. Just because your patents help you find a partner doesn't mean you don't get a say. You may be thinking of forced marriages, which are not the same
Older source but I assume OOP is from India, where is seems most people prefer arranged marriages at time of publishing. https://www.indiatoday.in/lifestyle/relationship/story/indians-swear-by-arranged-marriages-155274-2013-03-03
Higher among both women and young people.
You quoted four claims bruh...
If you want a source for one thing, I can probably find it
But I'm not doing a research paper on 3 things for you to say it's the one thing I didn't mention.
You gotta be specific if you want good answers.
Quick edit:
Only a dozen years ago people weren't against this!
For this
I mean, how am I going to prove two subjective opinions?
That's an unrealistic ask. That's like asking why the 1982 Mets was the best team in history with the world's greatest moustaches. It might be true but any effort to prove it empirically would be an exercise in futility used only to teach someone a point.
If you're trying to have an argument, the smart move would be to find an example of a country where women are both legally and culturally treated as equals and arranged marriage is still something people are happy with.
But I can't exactly prove the Easter bunny didn't his eggs under your pillow unless I can prove it was your sibling messing with you for a prank.
You're asking me to do the same thing you said you can't do
No, yours could be proven with a single example, for what you're asking me I would have to show every single country/culture and the rates...
You know "logic" is an actual class you can take, there's even online ones.
https://ocw.mit.edu/courses/24-241-logic-i-fall-2009/
Not even trying to be a dick, that's a 100% free MIT intro to logic course. It's one of those foundational things we stopped teaching
But it will get into how arguments like this can be one sided so they have to be proven from that direction.
Like. That's kind of the whole deal with gravity still being a theory and not proven
The primary problem you pointed out Mr. Passive aggressive totally-not-an-asshole, is that both of those are subjective.
I could trivially cite India right now, but how do I know whether it meets your standards of daughter self-empowerment and marriage success.