Like I understand that this particular user didn't really give it a fair shake, but lets not pretend those comments are wrong about that specific aspect of Lemmy. I have observed that you generally cannot have nuanced discussions on a myriad of topics on lemmy as there is a "right" and "wrong" stance in the eyes of the majority here.

Some of y'all are so far left that anyone even a millimeter to the right of you is seen as the second coming of Adolf himself.

Now obviously I understand that Lemmy isn't homogeneous, but it definitely has a majority user base that leans so far left it's pretty much laying on the ground at this point.

Thats just my 2¢ as left leaning moderate.

[–] imogen_underscore@hexbear.net 26 points 2 weeks ago (17 children)

left leaning moderate

this user is an incel-flavour repeat misogynist.

And I would feel fairly confident that the commenter was a woman because attacking someones personality (that they don’t know at all) is typically done by women. If they don’t like something you said they tend to tell you that you have a crap personality or a tiny dick.

So I am open to being wrong about that commenter, but I would feel comfortable putting a gentlemans bet of 1 dollar that it was left by a woman.

It’s the constant lost progress that wears you down. You’re carrying the conversation and keeping it fun while half the women are dry and give short answers to everything because they are messaging back the 20 other guys who all matched with them that day

I never said it was a new shitty behavior from women. It’s just that more men are aware of it now. Especially since a lot of women will post about it online and while they do get to share it with their yaaas queen slay fan base men do also see those posts. They see those comments where women are bragging about how many dates they have gone on with zero intention of actually romantically engaging with the man at any point.

Interesting response. I take it you must be one of those women I was referring to in part of my comment somewhere.

I definitely wouldn’t say they bring nothing to the table. It’s just that they expect you to bring a lot to the table and often times they bring little to the table. If they also didn’t expect you to bring much then it wouldn’t be so bad, but they expect it all while doing little to nothing in return.

Dating apps and websites have overinflated women’s egos

The average looking guy with a job and some normal hobbies is going to get very few matches where as most women get hundreds a day regardless of their level of employment or having hobbies. This leads to women believing they can find the millionaire bachelor if they just hold out for longer when in reality they are not the women that the millionaire bachelor is going to pick.

Myself and most men I know around my age who all did very well in the dating scene when we were younger have just completely given up on dating now. We have zero interest in putting in the time, energy and money into something that yeilds nothing in return these days.

Based on science and reality. There are endless studies that in general women are more attracted to “masculine” men. Strong looking deep voiced men. Even more so when ovulating. Same way men are hard wired for big boobs and wide hips. Monkey brain wants to make sure our offspring survive birth and are well fed.

https://www.colorado.edu/asmagazine/2010/12/01/fertile-women-want-macho-looking-men

Or just Google it for yourself and read any one of the many many articles talking about the subject in various different and specific ways.

Or just look at the men that most women are attracted to in general and see what characteristics they share.

Why are women more attracted to abstract things that may not resemble as man at all while most men require that they at least vaguely resemble a woman?

[–] Ram_The_Manparts@hexbear.net 13 points 1 week ago

Lmfaooo

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[–] Ram_The_Manparts@hexbear.net 25 points 2 weeks ago* (last edited 2 weeks ago) (1 children)

I have observed that you generally cannot have nuanced discussions on a myriad of topics on lemmy as there is a "right" and "wrong" stance in the eyes of the majority here.

Does this mean that you believe in nothing? Because I can't really interpret it any other way.

[–] MoreFPSmorebetter@lemmy.zip 4 points 2 weeks ago (2 children)

Im not really sure how that is the only way you interpreted what I said there...

I believe in all sorts of things. I haven't really gotten into many political conversations on Lemmy. I have simply seen in other threads I was reading through that the grand majority has their stance and anyone that doesn't necessarily agree with that stance tends to get downvoted or banned pretty quickly. Not exactly a place of thoughtful debate. More of one group dogpiling a minority opinion until it's gone.

Sorta like a self sustained echo chamber or something. If anyone comes in with an outside perspective the horde attacks until it's dead or leaves. Just makes most of the threads kinda boring because it's a bunch of people all agreeing on everything.

It's fine if that's how you wanna live but I prefer talking to people I don't necessarily agree with from time to time. Expand my horizons and view topics from different perspectives. Kinda a major part of the human experience.

[–] anarchiddy@lemmy.dbzer0.com 19 points 2 weeks ago (19 children)

We could quibble about where the 'moderate' stance actually is, but i find it more refreshing to debate the nuances of differing leftist stances rather than deal with brain-dead reactionary takes that i find in the typical reddit community

I don't think most Americans realize just how rightward their politics have been pushed over even the last 15 years

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[–] Ram_The_Manparts@hexbear.net 19 points 2 weeks ago (5 children)

So you do believe that the positions you hold are correct, that they are "right" rather than "wrong"? Otherwise, why would you hold them?

It's fine if that's how you wanna live but I prefer talking to people I don't necessarily agree with from time to time. Expand my horizons and view topics from different perspectives. Kinda a major part of the human experience.

I've been on this planet for nearly half a century, so I've already heard all the so-called "arguments" that are supposed to counter the things I believe. They're all garbage, and they never change.

[–] yyprum@lemmy.dbzer0.com 4 points 2 weeks ago (2 children)

So after half a century of being alive you have just decided there's nothing else to learn and nothing you could be mistaken about. No reason to talk things out and hear others' opinions. Because you are the oldest wisest human being ever.

I (not the person you answered to) do believe I am right on the opinions I hold, but I'm not certain of it. So I read, and I discourse, and I consider other points of view, in case my opinions could have been mistaken. That won't mean I will suddenly consider "hey maybe the Nazis were right killing all those people they hated". There will be some aspects where I won't budge in my opinion, but most things are nuanced and harder to draw a line for than the nazi example.

But then again, why would what I say matter, all arguments opposed to you are garbage and wrong.

[–] BodyBySisyphus@hexbear.net 17 points 1 week ago

What was the last thing that changed your opinion on something you would consider a substantial influence on how you interact with the world?

[–] Ram_The_Manparts@hexbear.net 12 points 1 week ago

jagoff

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[–] imogen_underscore@hexbear.net 15 points 2 weeks ago (35 children)

what are some of your specific disagreements with this far left cohort?

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[–] Blaze@lemmy.dbzer0.com 5 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

I avoid news and political communities so I don't really know that the crowd is about over there. People on !patientgamers@sh.itjust.works and !gardening@lemmy.world are usually nice

[–] MoreFPSmorebetter@lemmy.zip 6 points 2 weeks ago (7 children)

Yeah if you avoid political subs and political topics in general Lemmy is great. But if you sort by Lemmy's version of "r/all" it's almost all political stuff and the comments are all primally unidirectional.

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