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This feels like the correct answer.
The amount of people I go on a date with and tell them I'm ADHD and they follow with, "me too" when they are obviously not, is crushing. I'm glad my learning disability is fun to cosplay for you. The juxtaposition of people I meet in wild and tell them I'm ADHD and they are like, "Oh what's that like?" as they're looking for the lost keys in their left hand or leg stemming, feels... curious.
god that sucks to hear.
I'm alarmed at the amount of people I met, mostly women, who are like upset when I tell them I'm not autistic. It's like they want me to be or something. They insisted I needed to get tested to be sure.
Like what is with these people wanting this to be common and wanting to get people join in like its a club? It's a genetic trait. You either have it or you don't I thought.
Other people see you differently than you see yourself. And you wouldn't necessarily realize you were part of the autism tribe because as far as you were concerned, everyone is in the same tribe as you. You wouldn't really know what it was like to experience things with a different tribe's mental wiring. Just like I didn't really figure out that my brain literally worked differently than 95+% of the population (ADHD) until I was very thoroughly an adult.
I definitely don't think that way. I'm aware that I am different from other people.
Reposting from my other comment:
She confirmed I'm not autistic and thought it was hilarious that anyone would assume that about me. She's known me for years and she has experience in that field. She knows better than just randoms at a meet up group would.