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I have been dating my girlfriend for 3 years. I want to surprise her by proposing to her and being all fancy for our hangout soon, but I don’t want to move too fast. 3 years should be fine, right??

Anyway, I’ll tell you how it goes!!

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[–] boobs_@lemmy.world 30 points 5 days ago (14 children)

Have you two talked about marriage before? Are your long-term goals compatible? I'm of the philosophy that totally spontaneous proposals generally aren't a great idea unless certain important things are already known.

If you have talked about those things, then yeah go for it.

[–] wendyz@lemmy.ml 15 points 5 days ago (13 children)

A lot. We both want to move to possibly Japan together and get married. My family loves her and her family loves me.

I would not propose unless we talked about it, but she says often that she hopes we get married and that she wants to marry me.

[–] Windex007@lemmy.world 6 points 5 days ago (3 children)

That sounds solid.

That being said I do recommend living together before deciding if you wanna get married. Whole swathes of compatibility aren't really explored until you're living together.

Not saying you shouldn't propose if you aren't living together, though.

[–] wendyz@lemmy.myserv.one 2 points 4 days ago (1 children)

Thank you!! She said yes at the restaurant we went to

[–] Windex007@lemmy.world 2 points 4 days ago (1 children)
[–] wendyz@lemmy.ml 1 points 4 days ago

Thanks!! ❤️

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