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If someone's pronouns are any/all, what should I use or how should I determine how to refer to you and what pronouns to use? (monyet.cc)

submitted 1 year ago by DragonWasabi@monyet.cc to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

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I want to be respectful but if they say they don't care what pronouns I use for them, that feels like it puts the decision on me to choose what to call them and I guess I would probably default to "they" because choosing a gender for them feels weird... am I wrong?

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[–] whitecapstromgard@sh.itjust.works -3 points 1 year ago (5 children)

This pronoun obsession is a distraction from real problems.

[–] June@lemm.ee 16 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (1 children)

You’re right, we can’t, as humans, care about or focus on more than one thing. We should ignore everything that’s not actively killing people and focus exclusively on the things that are.

[–] whitecapstromgard@sh.itjust.works -1 points 1 year ago

Go on, focus your attention on something that matters. I dare you.

[–] Floey@lemm.ee 11 points 1 year ago

Projection? They asked a simple question about something they were unfamiliar with, I'd hardly call that obsessing.

[–] soupspoon@lemmy.world 5 points 1 year ago

This obsession with trying to be a better friend/neighbor/coworker is what's really wrong with the world today!

[–] jbrains@sh.itjust.works 3 points 1 year ago

What about asking one question led you to conclude that they have an obsession?

[–] Catoblepas@lemmy.blahaj.zone -1 points 1 year ago

You might not be fit to interact with society if you think minor etiquette questions are somehow stopping people from doing work to solve other problems.