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If someone's pronouns are any/all, what should I use or how should I determine how to refer to you and what pronouns to use? (monyet.cc)

submitted 1 year ago by DragonWasabi@monyet.cc to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

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I want to be respectful but if they say they don't care what pronouns I use for them, that feels like it puts the decision on me to choose what to call them and I guess I would probably default to "they" because choosing a gender for them feels weird... am I wrong?

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[–] quindraco@lemm.ee -5 points 1 year ago

Yes, you are wrong. "Any" means you can arbitrarily choose whatever you like without them being fussed. It does not grant you (or anyone else) the power or responsibility to choose a gender for them.