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Is it wrong to like the attention I get from having big breasts ? (lemmy.world)

submitted 2 weeks ago by SparkleBooty@lemmy.world to c/womensstuff@piefed.blahaj.zone

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Yes, this is a serious question. I still go on reddit and often see on the r/bigboobsproblem subreddit, women complaining about the attention they receive from their chest.

Granted, I do understand where they're coming from, if you just generally as a person don't want to be oogeled at like a slice of meat, I mean, I get that. That is infact uncomfortable.

I love my chest size, they make me feel feminine and beautiful and I appreciate and enjoy the attention they bring me. Because here's the thing, we're not gunna be young forever, at some point, we'll be older, and not attractive anymore.

With that, I kinda don't understand why some women don't like idk... being beautiful or desired? Like it makes me feel good and boosts my self-esteem.

Anyway, ppl are allowed to feel any way they want. Especially when it comes to their body. I just personally don't get why a person wouldn't want the attention.

Im not talking about harassment here, there's a big difference and clearly there's a line. But any way, what do you think?

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[–] recursive_recursion@piefed.ca 30 points 2 weeks ago* (last edited 2 weeks ago) (5 children)

Why Do I Look Like...This? The SexyCyborg Origin Story

Fuck what other people think about you and your desires about your own body.

You are your own person and as long as you aren't encroaching on other's freedom and rights, they shouldn't either is my philosophy.

If you like having big boobs then hell yeah!🙌
If you don't then still hell yeah!🙌

and to go back and answer your question, people's intents are probably why certain types of gazes are favored and disliked. There's a good reason why the "male gaze" is viewed unfavorably to say the least.

Being seen and loved by the people you care about most tends to feel great!

Glares or stares from strangers often feels alienating and intimidating to pervasive and threatening.

[–] FoxyFerengi@startrek.website 9 points 2 weeks ago (2 children)

Thank you for sharing that video. I've thought she was empowering herself for a really long time, and thought it was brave that she has been so fearless in being herself, but never heard the origin story

[–] ZDL@lazysoci.al 4 points 2 weeks ago (2 children)

Naomi Wu is the main reason I have a very jaundiced view of American feminism these days. I mean she's an open lesbian, yet the catty comments from American feminists she kept getting about how she was "obviously" just "looking for male attention" never stopped. Ever.

[–] LadyButterfly@piefed.blahaj.zone 2 points 2 weeks ago

Well nothing is hotter to straight men than gay women, so clearly all her relationships with women are to titallate men. It's the only explanation!

[–] FoxyFerengi@startrek.website 2 points 2 weeks ago

I'm with you on that. My BFF's family is from HK, that's why I have thought she was so brave for being out and proud while maintaining such a high profile presence online and at the events where she showed off her creations. She's wicked smart, confident and hot, so a lot if the vitriol seems like envy to me.

I'm ace, and I've felt that same "this is for me, not men" thing she said. That part really resonated with me, I wish I had her reaction of embracing her ideal body and loving herself for who she is

[–] recursive_recursion@piefed.ca 2 points 2 weeks ago

No worries🤗

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