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How does a polite and grateful person navigate the internet? (lemmy.ml)

submitted 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) by Subject6051@lemmy.ml to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

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I care a lot about what other people think (not good) and if someone tries to help or helps me, I can't stay without saying thank you. I really want to thank people who comment on my posts. But many times I ask a lot of questions and I thus reply to a lot of comments and try to be polite and show how grateful I am. So, now, I have seen many people abandoning their posts after they get their answer without upvotes or replies or followups, I am pretty sure they are better at time management than I am. Now, what do you think?

What is the right way to behave when you post and random strangers help you? I know you all don't think about me all the time and if you made a comment you probably will forget about it, so is it ok to just upvote and forget even the people who help you? I have an exam in a few months and I should not be wasting my time rn, what would you do if you were in my place?

Don't say "dont' create posts" because I like the people here and the answers they give, but yeah, it's a hell of a job to reply "satisfactorily". Again, should I just "upvote and ignore"?

Also, I just want to say that people here are amazing. You guys are very helpful! Like, especially on c/linux! Such helpful communities are one of the things that make Linux great and more usable! Thank you to the folks at c/linux btw

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[–] TeaHands@lemmy.world 4 points 1 year ago

I am a bit like you in that I do spend a lot of time replying to people who leave comments on my post...they took the time to read and reply so I figure it's just polite to respond. But also it's nice talking to people, you know? Never know when some innocuous reply you make will kick off a whole deeper conversation.

PLUS on a platform like Lemmy it also has the advantage that more comments = more visible in feeds = more replies from more people.

All that said, you do have to prioritise. Nobody's thinking you're rude if you just edit your post or make one comment saying "thanks for the input everyone, sorry I can't reply to you all individually but I appreciate the advice" or whatever. We're all busy, and most people probably don't expect a personal reply anyway. Maybe start thinking of upvoting and making a universal reply as the baseline, and doing individual replies just as a stretch goal when you have the time spare.