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Tell us your definitive "I really should not do this" moment. (sopuli.xyz)

submitted 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) by qyron@sopuli.xyz to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

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Ever had one those moments in life when you know, beyond any shadow of a doubt, you are making a very, very bad decision, with a great chance for instant regret and a miserable, probably long lasting, outcome and notheless followed that path?

Yeah, that one. Care to share with us?

I'll start. I dated a person, after we had already dated for a very short time, during which I was cheated on and eventually was left for a fourth person.

Yeah, not my brightest moment. And yes, I was cheated on again and again was left for another person.

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[–] AngryDemonoid@lemmy.lylapol.com 12 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (2 children)

My wife and I had a similar conversation the other day. The kids were being a handful, and she said, "Why do people even have kids?"

And I said it's because society lies to you. "You'll never feel emotionally/mentally/financially ready for kids. Just do it!"

I always tell people that you need to be 110% sure. I wouldn't trade my kids for anything, but I sure do miss the quiet, free time, and extra money.

[–] Ataraxia@sh.itjust.works 4 points 1 year ago

And for most people that day never comes and THAT'S PERFECTLY FINE. It is horrifying that something as extreme as creating a human from nothing is seen as something that people should just do. Baffling.

[–] penquin@lemmy.kde.social 4 points 1 year ago

"You'll never feel emotionally/mentally/financially ready for kids. Just do it!"

That's basically the biggest lie/bullshit you can ever hear. You can always be ready for kids. I just need $75+k a year and I'll be more than happy.