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Any dads here lonely? (sh.itjust.works)

submitted 11 months ago by praxician@sh.itjust.works to c/dadsplain@lemmy.ca

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I have young kids and I feel like I've pretty much become isolated from my friends. The ones that have kids live out of state. My best friends don't have kids so they usually come to me, but they also have their own lives so I don't want to bother them. And I can't really do my hobbies. I knew it would be hard with young kids, but I didn't realize it would be so lonely and without an outlet.

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[–] KairuByte@lemmy.dbzer0.com 23 points 11 months ago (1 children)

There’s nothing wrong with handing off your kids once a week for some “me” time. Assuming you have a partner and reciprocate, of course.

Obviously, life and kids being unpredictable can keep that from happening reliably. But you do need and deserve adult time with your social group.

Now again, make sure you’re reciprocating for your partner, assuming you have one. They deserve their own adult time.

And of course, get a babysitter so yall can have some adult time together. Don’t underestimate the need for date night.

[–] praxician@sh.itjust.works 9 points 11 months ago (1 children)

Yea, I work into the night. This allows me to take care of the mornings, and the evenings are my spouse. I take care of the kids mostly on the weekends to give her some time off. I think we may have to bite the bullet and find room in our budget for a cleaner and a babysitter

[–] GrindingGears@lemmy.ca 9 points 11 months ago

find room in our budget for a cleaner

My dude...oh man, you are about to realize the biggest privilege of adulthood.