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Never, ever, ever, ever, put Rick and Morty in your bio. I legitimately think you'd have better success putting your preferred porn categories. I like Rick and Morty, I live with my girlfriend, and I still don't watch it around her. There are very few popular things that actively repulse women as much as that show.
In the realm of more useful advice, Tinder bios are worthless, your pictures do all the work. Hinge, OKCupid, and Bumble will be a little better for profiles. Depending on the games you like maybe focus on board games or something a little more expressive than Fortnite and Minecraft. Books are great, put something you're actively/recently read, put your favorite and ask for suggestions. It seems you're metal adjacent in music tastes so maybe put some more general metal to hook other metal heads but not scare off everyone else
Finally, pick something goofy or weird to stick out with. I am great at tetris so I put that I have a standing offer to buy drinks for anyone who can beat me. Nobody will ever actually take you up on it but it gives you a way to stand out while also showcasing your interests
Feel free to post your profile for critique. Making good dating profiles is hard and getting unbiased internet opinions is harsh, but helpful
I dont think you and your partner can speak for all women. My partner and watch it together and we both like it. It may repulse certain women, but definitely not all women.
That said, i kinda agree that it should be left out of the bio, its too specific, and putting it in a bio comes off as someone who harasses mcdonalds workers for szechuan sauce. Its something to share once they know you better.
Are there women who like Rick and Morty? Of course. If you're on a dating app it's all a numbers game and Rick and Morty is one of the easiest ways to get the largest amount of women to immediately dismiss you. I would struggle to find someone who suggests associating yourself with it to increase your chances at going on a date. OP is asking Lemmy for dating profile tips, so I feel you need to make certain things very clear about how to succeed
I largely agree with you, and only object to the "actively repulse women" statement, as its overly broad.
And something about the phrasing came off as a suggestion to hide part of your personality from your partner, which seems like a bad idea. (This could just be me, misinterpreting what your saying)
Not just you, it struck me in the exact same way
My wife likes Rick and Morty more than I do, and I think it's a great show.
Sure, but we're all people posting on Fediverse content. We are not the vast majority of the population. My advise is to help make this dude as generally appealing as possible. We should not pretend we're the average people on these apps
It's definitely a turn off for most women imo, especially because of the shit with Justin Roiland (sp?) being a disgusting creep. Anyone who puts it in their profile because they love it that much is just asking to get swiped left on.
My ex-girlfriend really liked Rick and Morty...
Well, if you say so… porn categories it is!
Hell, I’d even go as far as to say don’t put any specific show, game, movie, or book in your bio - just that you play games, watch a genre of shows/movies, or read a genre of books.
I feel like “plays video games” is better than “plays Call of Duty, Apex Predators, and Rainbow Six”.
I watched it with my gf so ymmv. Try seeing women as individuals more.
Having not watched rick and Morty, why?
Not the person you asked, but I have the same general sense that most women would not find it a positive thing to list. Without making broad unsupported generalizations about women, I would suggest:
Anecdotally, my wife also dislikes the show.
I would suggest that listing broad categories of things you like is probably better than an individual thing. E.g., saying you like reading and listing a few authors isn't weird, but listing one single book seems a little obsessed.
That's all pretty close to what I'd say. It's not a popular show amongst women and trying to explain "No, Dan Harmon wrote some really poignant critiques about modern pop culture" is a losing battle when what everyone knows about the show is screaming Szechuan Sauce losers, Justin Roiland's general sex pest attitude, and generally gross content (including pedophile rape!) Don't start dating someone by justifying something they dislike, just sell the good parts about yourself
I have a rule of thumb about certain media. If you like Rick and Morty, Joker, Donnie Darko or Fight Club that's okay. But if any of those are you FAVORITE that's a low key red flag where I am gonna ask you to explain why...
Those aren't bad shows/movies, but they all feature very arrogant, can't-be-bothered-with-dummies, over the top rude men. It's a very edgy teenage immature thing to adore thess characters for the wrong reasons. It would never be a deal breaker, but it certainly isn't appealing.
Fight Club is so funny to me because most of the people who "love it so fuckin much" missed the point entirely. And I love it so fuckin much, but I'm a big Chuck Palahniuk fan and actually got what the book and movie were going for.