He was real popular with the ladies, then he met her after about a year he thought she was the one, when she dumped him and he found out he was just 1 of 4 he was crushed. Told me he went there because he was having thoughts about killing himself and thought "Fuck it, might as well find out what fucking dudes is like"

I think the whole sex club thing lasted about 3 months before he stopped going, started seeing girls again. Dude needed a coping mechanism, turns out gay orgies were just wild and fucked up enough to work.

Why not just let him be whatever he says he is?

Its just a matter of men or women becoming your "kink". You are moldable, you have neuroplasticity.