Image of a screenshot of Twitter of a screenshot of Facebook.
The Facebook screenshot reads:
Fun fact about me: When I'm having a conversation with you, I will periodically bring up personal experiences from my own life, interspersed withing your own stories that you're telling me. I'm not doing this to try and make the conversation about me, or to take away from your own experience. Actually, what I'm attempting to do, is to try and show you that I do, in fact, understand what you're trying to tell me, and that I am giving your story my full attention.
It can really be off-putting to some people, so if I've ever done this to you during a conversation, I just wanted to make sure you know that I wasn't trying to take over your story, I was just doing my best to connect with you in the moment.
The screenshot of Twitter reads:
This. I am fully aware that I do this. And I feel so guilty every time, but this. Understand this.
ADHD person here living with a normie girlfriend and apparently it's not. She gets so upset when I add my own personal anecdotes to the conversation, but when I sit there in silence she accuses me of not listening.
Guys I don't know what to do.
Show her this meme and explain that you're doing it to show that you understand and emphasis with what she is saying.
Communication is key in a healthy relationship.
I don't mean to be a downer here but... It sounds like she's just not right for you. To me it sounds like you've made efforts to try to improve and she hasn't. It takes two people working on a relationship to make it last.
While yes, communication is one key in a healthy and lasting relationship, the other key is mutual respect. Yes, you have to talk to each other, but just as important is having the respect to try and understand the other person's side and find a mutually acceptable resolution. It sounds like she doesn't respect you much, to me.
Granted, this isn't my relationship, and I'm sure I'm only seeing one negative aspect instead of the full picture, so don't take my words as definitive. But, I stand by this: if you don't feel respected, the relationship either isn't going to last, or it will and you will be miserable.