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[–] Potatos_are_not_friends@lemmy.world 33 points 10 months ago

Since there's so much confusion about this in the comments:

If you have an argument with your partner, a very common solution is to separate for a bit and get some space, then come back with clear heads and finish the argument like adults.

That separation - may it be going for a walk, or playing video games, is not disrespectful. It is the person trying to recover from their emotions.

To use an example: in an intense argument, my wife or I will recognize that things are heating up into shouting match. We each leave the space, and 3-12 hours later, restart the convo gently. I typically go off for a walk. She may go to the bedroom and watch TV.

If you're upset at what the other person is doing during your separation time, you are still emotionally affected and are not ready for a talk.