I'm not suggesting that they might assume any of the acted scene had real feelings behind it. Yet still, visually seeing your SO seemingly doing intimate stuff will make you feel something. You might not be jealous or anything, yet still. That has nothing to do with insecurity. You can feel awkward without jealousy, can't you?

[–] kadotux@sopuli.xyz 16 points 8 months ago (1 children)

As a former polyamoric person, here's how I (still) think of it: You can't control your feelings (they are merely physical reactions to situations) but you can control how you deal with them. Or how you act on them.

So in a sense, in my opinion, you're both correct.

[–] Imgonnatrythis@sh.itjust.works 7 points 8 months ago

So in a sense, in my opinion, you're both correct.

And that right there is the kind of attitude that gets you into polyamoric situations.

[–] Lmaydev@programming.dev 1 points 8 months ago (2 children)

There are plenty of people who are completely comfortable with their partners being strippers or porn stars. It's just their work at the end of the day.

I'm sure plenty of people don't really feel anything about it.

[–] zacher_glachl@lemmy.world 12 points 8 months ago

There are plenty of people who are completely comfortable with their partners being strippers or porn stars.

From a purely logical standpoint, given the number of strippers and porn stars out there, that statement must be true. It's not quite something I can wrap my head around though.