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Getting Over a Breakup (midwest.social)

submitted 1 year ago by Redpandalovely@midwest.social to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

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How have you successfully gotten over a breakup? I did not end the relationship and it was the most significant of my life. I feel confused and trying to understand why. I'm not sleeping well and my anxiety has decided to resurface. I'm ruminating. I don't have many people to go to about this. Please don't say I will find someone else, because I can't go there right now. And I know it won't happen anyway.

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[–] Thormjolnir@lemmy.fmhy.ml 16 points 1 year ago (1 children)

It's a lot like a funeral really. You will want to shoot them a text, or tag them on social media, and you can't or just get sad when you do. And if it's someone you really, truly cared for, it will take a long while. And that's okay. I seriously lost who I thought was the one I was supposed to be with, did a couple short realtionships and some one night stands (all optional) and then met my wife three years after that big break up. But you just keep keeping on

[–] Redpandalovely@midwest.social 2 points 1 year ago (1 children)

It really is like a funeral.

[–] Thormjolnir@lemmy.fmhy.ml 2 points 1 year ago

No one ever really gave me advice, but your friends can help and also just do stuff. Get out of the house, go watch movies, or anything really. Things that help pass time, will help, or at least it did me.