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I've had a few experience with this and each was drastically different.
On one end, I reconnected with a friend I hadn't seen since high school and invited her out for dinner. We met and just picked up right where we left off. Every time I see her now, it's the same. I invite her to all my parties by default because she's a great person to hang out with. We're very much similar people and really enjoy each other's company.
On the other, I reconnected with an online friend I hadn't spoken to in a few years. It was nice to chat with him again but the more we talked, the more it was clear to me why we stopped talking in the first place. He was sort of controlling and jumped to a lot of weird conclusions and never communicated what he wanted clearly. We stopped talking regularly and while we'll say hi if we're online at the same time, we don't seek each other out for long chats.
There's a former friend I'm almost certain would be the first type if I reached out, which honestly makes reaching out all the more terrifying because the rejection would hurt all the more.
Doesn't help that the one real attempt I've had at reconnecting with a friend was very much the 2nd type. We were very much the rawr xD type of kids, long story short we ended up going to different schools and lost touch, I went through tons of traumatic events and "mellowed out"(aka became horribly depressed). We reconnected online years later and he hadn't changed a bit, if anything he'd gotten worse. His idea of a stimulating conversation was one of us saying something like "1", the next saying "2", continuing ad nauseam.