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Yeah, kind of. Could you be more specific with what you mean by 'rekindling a friendship'? I've definitely got in contact with people I used to know, fairly often. I just get to wondering about them sometimes, and so I reach out occasionally. Usually there's some small talk and kind greetings/reminiscing, and then the conversation kind of eventually fizzles out most of the time after we get back to our normal lives. What's normal though?
I got into contact with one of my best friends that I grew up with recently. I probably hadn't seen/talked to him in 10 years or more. I try to reach out and keep the conversation going, but he's busy with his own life and I try not to get upset if he goes through periods where he's not able to talk, for whatever reasons. We aren't in the same places in our lives, and so I shouldn't have the same expectations for reciprocation. I think maybe my expectations for reciprocation have always been a little unrealistic though. That's been something I've struggled with for a long time. Always being the initiator tends to wear on a person.